Post # 1
I have a 1.5 year old son. I had a miscarriage 5 months ago at around 5.5 weeks and just found out I’m pregnant again.
I can’t feel happy or excited because I’m afraid of of miscarrying again. I constantly over-analyze every physical symptom I have/don’t have and I check for blood every time I go to the bathroom. It’s almost as if I’m just waiting for it to happen again.
I know it’s out of my hands. Has anyone been through this? Any advice on how to deal is much needed. Thank you.
Post # 2
I’m in the same boat. MC at 5.5 weeks 5 months ago… This time my symptoms are so much more mild and it’s freaking me out a bit. Today my test wasn’t much darker than yesterday’s and I’m worrying it means I’m starting a CP, even though it’s probably nothing.
I wish I knew what would fix it. Personally I’m getting my blood checked to see if I’m progressing normally, so if tomorrow my doc says that is the case I think I’ll be able to relax a bit?
*Hugs* stay strong bee, you can make it.
Post # 3
Yes, I miscarried last spring then got pregnant again in October. It is hard but just take some deep breaths. It gets better once you get through the first trimester although there are still ‘what ifs?’ I am 24 weeks and still think “what if something happened.” Trying to not go there though. Have to have faith that things will work out and there will be a beautiful, healthy baby at the end of this journey.
Post # 4
I would just remind yourself that whats going to happen is going to happen, regardless of whether you worry about it or not. No matter what happens, you will be okay. So just take a deep breath and try to keep busy.
Post # 5
What you’re feeling is totally normal. I miscarried and then became pregnant exactly one year later. I felt like I couldn’t really get excited because I was so worried something would go wrong. I think it gets a little easier the further along you are, but even now at 16 weeks I went to the doctor yesterday because I was having bad back pain and was worried about miscarriage (luckily bub is fine). I wish I had better advice, but just try to take deep breaths and take it one day at a time.
Post # 6
amanda1988 : I missed you had a BFP! Congrats!! Crossing my fingers for you!
OP, I know it’s easier said than done but whatever will be will be. If this baby isn’t the right one to come into your life then there isn’t much you can do to change that. Just try to remain optimistic and enjoy the time you have with them right now, whatever the outcome may be.
Post # 7
LongIslandRN : Something that another bee posted some time ago to help ease another bee’s fears has become my mantra since finding out that we’re pregnant on Sunday: Right this moment, you are pregnant. You can’t control what might happen now and in the following days, but for right now, you are pregnant. It has helped me to try to let go of fear for what might happen and enjoy that I am pregnant right now.
Post # 8
I had an MC at 5 weeks, then got pregnant the cycle after. I was terrified, and never stopped checking for blood every time I went to the washroom. It didn’t really stop until after the first trimester. I am currently 23+5 with a healthy baby girl growing! Now that she is getting closer to viability outside the uterus, my anxiety is starting to kick in again though. Good luck!