Pregnant and Emotional

posted 3 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
7906 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

First of all, congrats!!!

Second, if you’re getting a positive result on a home test, then you could call your doctor and ask for a blood test if you wanted, and that would at least tell you if things appear to be headed in the right direction at this early stage. I also have a history of miscarriage, and my doctor was happy to order HCG betas for me when I got my first squinter at 9dpo so we could get some peace of mind (or not) from that.

Finally, could you still tell your mom? My mom was a great support to me during my miscarriage, so I told her within like a day of getting my BFP on my healthy pregnancy. It definitely helped having her support through the angst of the first trimester when everything felt so tenuous!

Post # 4
271 posts
Helper bee

tayegs :  

Honey – your mom’s hopes are for you to be happy, no doubt she wants to be supportive of you. You aren’t letting her down if something happens – you are sharing an experience that is not uncommon for women. If YOU need the support, and she is capable of providing it (ie: your relationship is close) reach out to her under strict confidence. It’s okay to be both excited and scared! ❤️

Post # 5
149 posts
Blushing bee

tayegs :  Congratulations Bee! Fingers crossed for a healthy and happy 9 months 🌸. 

As pp mentioned, perhaps you can get your doc to order betas for you 😊 . 

With regards to telling your mom, it might make you feel better to tell her now and have someone to lean on for support whether this pregnancy works out or not. You don’t have to go through anxiety alone, and seeing as you want to tell your mom, I’m guessing you two have a good relationship.  

All the best for the months ahead ❤️

Post # 6
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

No advice, just hugs to you and your fam. What a nerve-wracking place to be in.

Post # 7
388 posts
Helper bee


Just here to echo sentiments of earlier posters. If you are close with your mom, it is perfectly fine to tell her now under confidence. If you don’t think that’s wise (also totally fine), I would definitely suggest you think about someone else you’re close with, a close friend, sister etc who you can tell this early without worry that they will spread it around who can help be part of your support system. 

Post # 9
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

tayegs :  I can definitely relate. We started trying for our second in June 2016. I had an ectopic in October 2016, followed by a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks in July 2017 & another missed miscarriage at 9 weeks in December 2017. I’m currently 25 weeks pregnant with my rainbow. I spent the whole first trimester wrapped in anxiety though. We basically took it one day at a time and every day I ended on a thankful reminder – “today I am pregnant”. I also had to find coping techniques so that I could function. I listened a lot of calming music, went for walks and tried to carry on as normal. I think a common self protection method is to not get too attached and to fear the worst. I hope that you are able to find peace in the coming weeks and your appointment goes well on May 8th!

Post # 10
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

tayegs :  I’ve had 2 miscarriages, I know the feeling.

The 12 week rule isn’t real.  It’s completely up to you who and when you share your news. 

If you WANT to wait to tell people at 12 weeks, 20 weeks or any other time, that’s completely fine.

If you WANT to tell everyone at 2 weeks, that is also completely fine. 

Both of my pregnancies, I told my Mother-In-Law, SIL, best friend and best work friend.  They were excellent support during the duration of both of the pregnancies, and the miscarriages.  I wouldn’t hesitate to tell them again.

But fingers x for you that this is your sticky baby. 

Post # 12
6396 posts
Bee Keeper

tayegs :  Call and see if you can get a blood test.  I had two back to back miscarriages and my doctor immediately sent me in for a reading on my HCG and progesterone and that helped a lot.

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