Post # 1
Sorry the first one came up as spam…
A few days ago, my doctor confirmed that I’m pregnant!! We went through ICSI and we are both so excited and hopeful for the next 8 months. Due to the IVF medication, I’ve unfortunately gotten a mild/moderate case of OHSS. For those who don’t know what that is, it basically means my ovaries are over stimulated and enlarged and I am suffering from extreme bloating and discomfort on top of nausea.
I’m only working part time at the moment, but after talking it through with my Darling Husband today, I’ve decided I need to quit. My job is quite active and the side effects will make it too difficult to return and do a good job plus the work environment isn’t particularly healthy for a pregnant woman to be in anyways as it requires me to be around chemicals.
I’ve been off for the past few weeks and am I am due to return this week. I need to write an email to the director and some people I work with but I’m not sure what to say. We’ve kept our infertility journey private and we do not plan to tell anyone the positive results until I am in the second trimester.
As a result, I do not want to say I have OHSS (very rare to spontaneously get it if not going through ART treatment) and I also don’t really want to share that I’m pregnant as we are waiting to tell people we are close with (I do not consider anyone I work with a close friend) and it feels wrong to tell work before them.
What do I write in the email? I don’t want to come across as being flakey nor do I want to burn any bridges. Although it’s not a career job, I still would like to keep a good reputation.
Thank you. I’m at a loss!
Post # 2
“Due to personal medical reason…. I’ve decide to resign and focus on my health, etc” all you have to say is medical reason and people are typically decent enough not to probe.
Post # 3
Should this be a conversation you have on the phone or in person rather than by email? I agree with pp you don’t need to elaborate on what your medical reasons are, but to me it seems more professional to not do this by email. Seems kind of like texting a break-up…
Post # 4
I also would call. I would also offer to help train your replacement and be available to answer any questions.
Post # 5
My work requires written notice, as have all my past jobs, so doing an email is pretty standard.
I agree with pp about just saying medical reasons. As long as you give enough notice I think that’s fine.
Post # 6
What the first poster said. Just ensure you’re going about it according to the company policy. I couldn’t quit my job through a simple email. The police and my department would be at my door. 😂
Post # 7
Agree with pp who said email that references medical reasons. I don’t think you should offer to train a replacement given how stressful that is and you already work in a not great environment (chemicals and physical labor) for your situation.
Post # 8
Agree with PP about calling/talking to your direct supervisor first, and then follow up with the email to coworkers/boss as a farewell email. Here’s an example of one I received recently.
As some of you may know, I’ve decided to resign due to personal reasons.
It was not an easy decision to leave the wonderful community here at XYZ and I’m grateful for the career opportunities I’ve had here and the amazing colleagues I’ve had the pleasure to work with.
Please keep in touch via LinkedIn, my personal email, or text/call at XYZ.
I wish you all continued success in your careers and personal endeavors, and am hopeful we will have the opportunity to work cross paths again in the future.
Thank you all for making my time here at XYZ such a great experience.
Post # 9
I’d talk to the director in person. Then I’d submit a letter of resignation and give the required notice. Only then would I email other coworkers. Agreed that you do not need to say anything other than “a personal medical reason” and if anyone is so impolite as to pry, simply tell them that you’re not comfortable discussing it.
Post # 10
I just don’t agree with people advising to talk first. I’m always afraid of how things can get twisted, so it is best to just do it in writing and document it.
Post # 11
I suggest you also make sure you are aware of any benefits you might be entitled to, by staying employed on sick leave or taking a leave of absence. Obviously this depends on your individual circumstances, but at my workplace you could be off on sick leave with full pay and benefits, until you either felt better or were eligible for maternity leave to start.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
julies1949 : yes I was thinking the same. You may qualify for short or long-term sick leave which could buy you time until you’re ready to announce the pregnancy and resign.
I don’t know though. Depends on the employer/industry. I would definitely want to have something in writing though. You can always have a conversation with your boss after to “clear the air” a bit. Good luck 🙂
Post # 13
I would personally talk to the director in person not just quit via email. Depending on how long you’ve worked there you may have a very good relationship with this person and I think it would be ruder to send an email. I also think that you may want to check how soon you can quit after taking sick leave.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Depending on your relationship with the director, I would recommend calling first and then follow up with an email. At my work place, this is common practice. We require notice in writing, but the phone call is a courtesy to the employees manager. You don’t have to tell them specifics, you can state “for personal/medical reasons”.
Congratulations on your pregnancy! All the best to you and your growing family!
Post # 15
Thanks for the advice all!