(Closed) pregnant and stressed

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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anonybee0810:  hey, I suggest messaging her back something along the lines of “Hey Sarah,sorry for the delay, Baby hasn’t arrived quite yet but am exhausted at the moment and was wrapping things up at work. I won’t be able to meet up before baby is born, things are really hectic. Hope alls well with you x” and thorn ignore any additional messages. After the baby is born you will be able to make more excuses. I sympathise..Im 38weeks on Weds and have stomach flu right now so I guess I can imagine how you’re feeling. Good luck with everything! 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Making up excuses until she goes away might be your best bet right now.  Maybe she will get the hint after so many excuses.  She sounds really wishy washy and probably would not be able to commit if you did make plans.  It’s good you are trying to let her go.  I have a couple friends like that and just do not contact them and they do not contact me.  

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

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anonybee0810:  ” I don’t enjoy it when we do get together (which is about 3-4 times a year).”….I stopped reading after this. If someone doesnt bring anything positive to your life, why would you even hesitate to cut contact with them? Sorry. I’d be out of there so fast.

 

**edited because I actually did read the end of your post. This woman says she’s suicidal and reels you back in? This is mental illness. Put her in touch with a mental health contact and run in the opposite direction. I’m sorry you’re being held hostage by this woman. This is supposed to be a very happy time in your life. I am currently 35 weeks pregnant and my BS allowance is 0 these days. This time is about you, your husband, your new babe and your family. Best of luck OP. Sorry you have this crazy lady in your life.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by  missjz.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Gah I so sympathize with this situation. I ended a friendship days before having my daughter for many reasons but it all culminated in an escalating conversation about me being a bad friend and a bunch of much crazier stuff. The fact that this “friend” would dump such drama on me days before I was to have major surgery and become a mother was more than enough to convince me that the friendship was over. Sorry you’re going through this right now, I think you should ditch this person asap. Once you have your beautiful baby in your arms you’re not going to have a spare second to give to selfish people like this and you’re going to be even more motivated to be a lion mama and keep drama people away from your child and stable life. 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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amanda3334455:  this. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

So it seems that you know you need to get this person out of your life, but you’re unsure about the most effective way to go about that. 

Your family is right, if you ignore her she will EVENTUALLY give up. But how full on are the text messages going to get in the mean time? And how stressed/upset will it make you?  

But on the other hand I can imagine that engaging with her and trying to make excuses might just invite more contact from her. 

So, my suggestion would be to block her number. That way you can truly ignore her. If you can’t do this through your carrier, there are apps that you can use. 

ETA: I’m 38 weeks with my first too! From what I’ve learned about labour, you need your body to be releasing oxytocin (the “love” hormone) and this sort of anxiety/stress is not going to help you with that. So block her asap and then try not to think about her again 🙂 Good luck with baby!

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by  flossy.lou.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I appreciate its very hard to do but you shouldn’t listen to anyone who threatens suicide if you don’t do what they say. Well, I say don’t listen and I mean don’t take action regarding what they want, i.e. staying friends as much as she wants in this case. You shouldn’t be guilted into being friends with her. Next time she does threaten it then I would call an ambulance for her. If she is genuinely suicidal she will need help.

 

As for now I woild quickly message her back and say, “sorry I’ve been really busy with finishing work and preparing for the baby. Everything is fine and I will be in touch after baby is born.”

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