Post # 1
Yikes! So I’m getting married in TWO WEEKS and had been pestering FH for awhile that I should get off the pill because I was SURE it was going to take forever to conceive. We’re not spring chickens, I’m 33, he’s 40 and I have endometriosis. So I went off the pill in February and much to my shock (I’m still in shock) I seem to have become pregnant the first cycle….like…WTF? was my first thought! So when we marry, I will be about 11 weeks pregnant. I’m just hoping my dress will fit…I seem to have grown a lot “up top” :s We haven’t told anyone yet, apart from my best friend, but am wondering when do we break the news? All my family is coming from out of town (parents, cousins etc), is this an appropriate time, or do I go home and then announce it two weeks after (when it’s more certain, after 12 weeks?) My family is not conservative at all, a few of my cousins have had their weddings years after having a child so it definitely wouldn’t be frowned upon. I’m just wondering if announcing a baby along with all the stresses of a wedding is inappropriate.
Not sure…what would you do?
Post # 3
I think this is a really personal decision. If it were me, I’d probably wait, only because I’d have no clue WHEN to announce it at the wedding. Congratulations on everything!! Super exciting!
Post # 4
I think that if you feel comfortable and your family would enjoy hearing the news when all together then I don’t see why not. It’ll add to the joy of the day!
Post # 5
Unless you want your wedding to become about the baby, I would suggest not telling people. Same thing just happened to a friend of mine. She was about 14 weeks pregnant at her wedding and her fiance told some of his close friends before the wedding that she was preggos and I am guilty of being overly excited for them and talking non-stop about the baby. She told me after my initial excitement had died down that they didn’t want many people knowing in fear that the wedding will lose it’s specialness. Let people focus on the wedding first, then the baby. Good luck!
Post # 6
If it was me, I’d wait until the 2nd trimester, just because it’s more certain. I don’t think it’s weird or dishonest or anything to keep it a secret for another few weeks. But if you really want to announce it at the wedding – go for it! I wouldn’t call it “inappropriate,” that’s for sure!
Post # 7
I saw someone do this on Say Yes to the Dress. It was exciting for them to break the news at the wedding. I think if you do, do it at the end of the night so its not what people chat about the whole time!
Post # 8
Tough question. I lean towards telling them at the end of the reception, and making the rest of the wedding “all wedding.” But you can’t go wrong either way!
Post # 9
I would wait to tell everyone after 12 weeks, but we would probably tell our parents sooner than everyone else.
Post # 10
First off…CONGRATULATIONS!!! I am 23, just had my lap surgery this past december and found out that my endometriosis is in stage 3…we’ve known I’ve had endometriosis for years so I have been on BC for a long time with no period….now they put me on the Lupron Depot shot which puts my body through menopause…sucks, but hoping it’ll help me in the long run by supressing the endometriosis so we CAN have kids down the road…
That being said…I agree with some of the PP’s to either wait until the END of the night so that the day is all about your wedding…or just completely waiting until after the wedding!! Whatever you choose, they will still be just as excited 🙂
Post # 11
Congrats!! I got preggo the first cycle coming off birth control too…surprise!! 🙂
I have mixed feelings about this. For one, I think there’s no better time to announce it than to do it while you have ALL your family and friends in one place! They all get the same news at the same time and no one feels left out. Plus, it would just add to your joy of the day.
However, it might also add to your nerves that day? Also, it might end up being a whole run-around with your guests having to come up to you and ask you a million questions about being pregnant…so…that might be a bit annoying. I guess it depends how you think your guests will react, and how many guests you will have. Also, since you won’t be QUITE to that 12-week timeframe, you have a great excuse NOT to say anything, especially if you have womanly troubles as you say. I really hate to say this, but if something DOES happen after the wedding and you’ve told everyone, it might sort of cloud your memories of your wedding day.
Just trying to think of everything! Maybe it will make the day more special between you and your new husband to have your little secret 🙂
Post # 12
I was in almost the exact same situation…did not expect it to happen when it did, and I was a little over 10 weeks at our wedding. I wanted to wait, but Darling Husband really wanted to tell people when they were all in one place and in person (most of our family don’t live near us and were travelling in for the wedding). We discussed and decided to tell our parents alone and tell our families / bridal party at our rehearsal dinner. It did not go as planned…his parents were late and just made it to the rehearsal dinner, so he took them aside to tell them before we told the rest of our guests. His 5 year old nephew overheard and ran out into the room where the rest of our guests were and yelled “Sessaj is gonna have a baby!!” and I ran in just behind him and everyone stared at me… so I just laughed and said “SURPRISE!” It was all ok and makes for a cute story, I guess. My Maid/Matron of Honor was in the bathroom (which I hadn’t noticed in all the commotion) and boy was she shocked when she came out, lol.
We told everyone else at the wedding during a game we played where people drew questions about us and had to try to answer (I don’t remember the rules, one of the bridal party organized it). The last question was “DH and Sessaj really can’t wait to have children. Are they pregnant right now?” and the bridal party screamed “YES!!” Again, it was cute.
For us, it didn’t take away from our day at all…we were (are) so excited about it that we wanted it to be part of our day and honestly people asking me about it didn’t bother me at all or make me feel like they were losing sight of the wedding… I was too excited about everything anyway and she was a huge part of that. We had some really sweet pictures taken later with Darling Husband kneeling down and kissing my belly, and I can’t wait for her to see those. It was wonderful that she got to be a part of one of our most important days 🙂
Post # 13
Wait. And here’s my depressing reason why: just because you make it through the first trimester does not mean you’re safe. Tell everyone later, so if, and I truly hope this doesn’t happen to you, something happens, the memory of announcing your pregnancy will not tarnish the memory of your wedding.
Post # 14
Congrats! I’d do it at the end of the night, when y’all are leaving. Leave the crowd in awe and talking babies.LOL