Post # 1
Better? Worse? More frequent? Non existent?
I have had virtually no drive, and it hurts when it happens. Like the bumping up against the top of my goods hurts so bad, that I am whimpering.
ive been having what I call “pity sessions” to make sure he’s taken care of. Is anyone else like this?
Post # 3
I have had no drive either, and I feel horrible about it. 🙁 No matter what position we try its just way too uncomfortable! Our sex life is pretty much non existent right now, which sucks.
Post # 4
My sex drive is more of a cat in heat right now. lol I want it all.the.time. but Darling Husband is scared of putting pressure on the baby. There are sometimes where it hurts though. I’ve been having troubles Too Much Information getting wet. Sucks.
Post # 5
Non-existent We just can’t seem to get our schedules/timing matched up!
Post # 6
We were about once a week/every 10 days when I was in my first trimester, and at about 15 weeks PG my drive went up and its now about 2-3 x/week.
In my first tri, it was definitely a little bit of pity sex, but between my hormones changing and using new positions (might I recommend a scissor-like position? sometimes even being on top was too much) that helped.
Post # 7
I don’t want to say non-existent… But I think it’s been about 3 weeks since we last did it. We have good intentions and I’m somewhat interested, but sooo tired (28 weeks here) And the bump is really starting to get in the way in the positions that usually work best for me.
Post # 8
Omg you poor thing! I’m not pregnant but when I was pregnant with dd I wanted sex all the time! I’d call fi to come home for quickies lol. Then I’d get sick from the motion sickness hahaa it was definitely an experience!!
Post # 9
I’m only 8w5d and I have only once went to Fiance to bow chika wow wow; he seems to have grown a sex drive! He is a Roofer though so thankfully he’s usually pretty tired at night except the weekends! lol. But I tend to “get in the mood” after a little physical persuasion lol! I asked Fiance if he thinks he will be weirded out about sex when I develop a belly and he said probably. But he knows its gonna be quite a while after birth so i think he will change his mind before birth… I have noticed some positions are already out though, because OP like you said it hurts way too much. Everything is way too sensitive up there. My tummy also tends to be cramped after but not bad its managable.
Post # 10
I have no drive and I actually would really prefer if he didn’t come near me unless I want it (which is rare). I’ve actually started crying right smack in the middle of it a couple times but it doesn’t stop him from asking. Usually he asks and I feel bad when he starts to beg so I do it to make him stop and when I do he better wham bam thank you ma’am so I can get back to what I was doing lol
Post # 11
Since I’m only 13 weeks, I’ve been dealing with naseau. I have been okay with sex, but Darling Husband has been missing blow jobs. I have him one for his birthday haha.
Post # 12
my sex drive is pretty non existent right now, but I’m only 6w. Darling Husband is freaked out by sex right now since my BFP that we’ve only had sex once in almost 3 weeks. it’s a little embarrassing when I actually say it!!
Post # 13
@MrsMaskatoBe: I could have written your post 🙁 once we finally DO do it and I O it is like a “super amazing” O, but I just never am spontaneously in the mood and when we start it hurts..I can’t really explain it either but it’s like my vagina has just dried up or something and no matter how much lube we use it’s still uncomfortable when he enters me. Using my vibrator at the same time helps bc it like “distracts” me from the owie vag. Ha sorry that was total Too Much Information. But I totally feel ya girl, and it sucks. My poor poor Darling Husband is just so sex deprived. At least when we do do it (which is seriously only like once a week–IF that) he doesn’t last long at all bc he has no stamina! Hahahahahaha
Post # 14
@cowgirlace: Hahaha. My Darling Husband is the same. If we do it regularly he can keep it up for a while, but when he has to wait a week it ruins his stamina and he’s done fast (thank the lord for small mercies).
I don’t want his penis anywhere near me right now. We do it about once a week, but only because I feel bad saying no every time. People told me second trimester would be better than first, but we’re closing in on the 18w mark and I still don’t want it.
Post # 15
First trimester was quiet because I was nauseous, or so tired that I would have probably fallen asleep during but we weren’t affraid of doing it or anything so we still did it sometimes. Second trimester was much better, but now nearing the end of my 3rd it’s nearly non existant, I’m huge, can barely breathe, get heartburn if I move too fast in any direction, I’m sore, can’t lay this way, can’t lay that way etc.. it’s just a bad scene haha. I’m sure Darling Husband is hoping I go past 40 weeks so that I’m begging him to do it all the time to get labour going.
He was also hoping that TTC would take us a while so he could get lots of practice rounds, jokes on him.. we got pregnant first try. So knowing that, this baby will probably come early before we need to resort to any eviction techniques.
Post # 16
Earlier on was great, seemed to be even more sensitive. As my belly got progressively bigger, it got worse and worse haha. It is very very hard to do now because any position hurts too much. I’ve had a very decreased drive, too.