(Closed) Pregnant Bridesmaid

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I ask her to just come as a guest?
    Let her stay in the wedding : (172 votes)
    85 %
    Kick her out : (14 votes)
    7 %
    Other: Please Explain : (16 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    6824 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Agh your wedding is 1 day, a child’s life is forever. A pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man is not going to destroy your day.  Let the Bridesmaid or Best Man stay in the wedding.

    Post # 4
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    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I hope you realize how you sound right now. You actually had the audacity to tell your friend that a pregnant bridesmaid is not “ideal” for your wedding. Wow. Honestly, I hope your bridesmaid does herself a favor and drops out of your wedding on her own.

    Post # 5
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    1762 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Sassygrn:  +1 I agree let her decide if she wants to take part in your wedding depending how  far along she is and if shes still comfortable being a bridesmaid but I do think your seriously over reacting on this.

    Post # 7
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    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Wow, you both need some new views on weddings. She didn’t let a friend of hers be a bridesmaid because she was ‘heavy’? Are you serious? That’s horrible.

    And you, being pregnant is a distraction? For who?

    So crazy.

    Post # 8
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    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    She has known in advance how you felt about it. You havent been shy with your feelings so thats a plus.  If you dont want a pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man then dont have one. I think you should wait & discuss this IF she is actually pregnant on your wedding day & how far along. She may not even be pregnant or could be barely showing. I say wait a while & cross that bridge if it comes. 🙂 

    Post # 9
    Member
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    If you feel that strongly about not having a pregnant bridesmaid I would give her the option of staying in the bridal party, or not. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    632 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    You sound like a bitch. Sorry, but true. You’re mad your bridesmaid didn’t listen to your wishes to not get pregnant? She isn’t to put her life on hold because you have an upcoming wedding.

    It’s strange to me, the people you pick in your wedding party are supposed to be those that matter to you. The way you’re behaving indicates otherwise. For heaven’s sake, be happy for her. She and her SO are bringing a life into this world.

    Also, this is not “your” day. Did you forget that there is a whole other half getting married that day? It’s a day to celebrate two people getting married, not a day to dress up like a princess and get everything you ever wanted.

    Post # 12
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    882 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I have always been under the assumption that you choose your bridesmaids because they are your friends and you have a close, personal relationship with them—NOT because of what they look like (or will look like in pictures).

    Bridesmaids are supposed to be your best friends, not accessories. I find it ridiculous that you feel the need to ask a “friend” to choose between standing beside you on your wedding day and getting pregnant. Maybe you should revaluate your friendship with her in the first palce. But to answer your question—I think you should “let” her stay in the wedding. 

    Post # 13
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    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Mrs. Mensah:  You asked for people’s opinions.. so I gave you mine. What is it that you’re so worried about exactly? Is it how your photos will turn out? Photographer’s are great at positioning people, so her baby belly shouldn’t be distracting. 

    Post # 14
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    744 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I am in the same boat as you. My wedding is in April and my Maid/Matron of Honor got preggo in November. I could not dream of asking her to step down just because she is pregnant. She will be REALLY big by the time my wedding gets here. I think she is going to be extremely adorable and I am so happy for her!

     

    She will not take away your attention. Everyone will know who the bride is and they are there to celebrate with YOU and your groom. I honestly think it would be extremely selfish to kick her out.

    I never understand why brides do things like this. You are potentially jeapordizing your friendship with your bridesmaid if you kick her out. You wouldn’t be “pacifying” her feelings, you would be acting as a good friend should be if you let her stay in the wedding party.

    ETA: You should check with her before you make any decisions. She may not actually want to be a bridesmaid anymore depending on how far along she is in her pregnancy by the time your wedding rolls around. Good luck in whatever you decide.

    Post # 15
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Mrs. Mensah:   The only word that should be in quotations in this thread is “friend”.

    It makes me very very sad to see that there are actually people who think this way.  But also makes me very very happy for the wonderful, amazing, and supportive friends that I have in my life…who would be nothing but ecstatic for me if I were to be pregnant on their wedding day.

    So in turn, my advice is to take a step back and look at the bigger picture.  Put yourself in her shoes.  Would YOU postpone your life for a friends wedding?  I hope not.  I hope no one would ever put limitations on what you can and cannot do in order to qualify as being good enough to participate in such a special day.

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