(Closed) Pregnant Bridesmaid

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

if her doctor says it’s ok then she should be fine, she should ask! Also maybe having a place she can sit and LOTS of water?

Post # 4
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Has she spoken to her doctor yet?  I thought that you weren’t allowed to fly after you were X amount of months pregnant (I’m really not sure if this is true).  I would stress that she should clear it with her doctor to make sure the little one will be ok.

Post # 5
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think it is really up to her how much she participates.  Some women might have absolutely no problem standing for long hours, taking long flights, etc… at eight months pregnant; others might be laid up in bed at six months.  I would just let her know that you understand if she needs to sit down during the ceremony or only take a couple pictures.  Just tell her to let you know if she needs anything.  If she feels up to it and doesn’t feel like the heat/standing/long ceremony/walking will affect her, let her do what she wants!  She might just not be affected by those things like other pregnant women would be. 

Post # 6
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009


There is some information I found online.  You will need to ask her to speak with her doctor.  Many doctors do no recommend flying in your third trimester.  Airlines usually won’t allow you to fly if there is less than 1 month to the time of expected labor.  Either way, it is ultimately up to her.

 Good luck.

Post # 8
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Ditto what MissMelissaB said – the biggest thing to check out immediately is whether she’ll be allowed to fly.  If you’re okay with it, you should be able to accommodate her needs the day of with a chair to sit in, water if she’s feeling tired, etc.  My matron of honor will be 8 months pregnant at my wedding, and I’m going to insist she sit down during the ceremony if she needs to.  You should also think carefully about what you’re going to have her do for a dress and shoes; some women have no problem getting into strappy heels during their pregnancy, but for others (especially someone who’s feet swell!) that may be out of the question.  We’re having a dress made for my Maid/Matron of Honor out of the same fabric that the other girls will be wearing, in order to leave room for her growing belly 🙂

Good luck – hopefully everything will work out just fine and she’ll be able to be a part of your special day. 

Post # 9
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Definitely have her ask her doctor. My Maid/Matron of Honor will be at just about 7 months and she’s already got a nice-sized baby-bump. I’m leaving her degree of participation up to her and will probably have a chair for her to sit in at the ceremony if she needs to.

Post # 10
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

She really needs to check with her DOCTOR and her INSURANCE most importantly, but also the airlines.

Different airlines have different restrictions about pregnant women flying.

I believe that the safe cutoff for travel is around the 7-8month mark, so she might be cutting it close.

Also- my insurance company won’t cover the cost of labor/delivery for patients that travel ‘outside the service area’ after 36 weeks (which corresponds to the end of the 8th month).  So, if she goes into labor at your wedding, her insurance may not cover it!

Post # 11
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh yikes! I thought the third trimester meant no flying. The changes in pressure can cause her to go into labor ASAP! If I were here, I’d be really scared, by the way, and probably say NO to being a Bridesmaid or Best Man although it would break my heart. Make sure she is putting herself and her baby first, not your wedding! 

I think a little over 8 months is cutting it close, yikes! I think if you offer plentiful seating for her (even during the ceremony even if it looks weird that she’s sitting) that’d be the best you can do. Maybe give her a cute little umbrella/parasol to hold up =]

Post # 12
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Like Mrs Spring said, it’s up to her. Everyone feels differently in pregnancy. I personally am nearly 8 mo pregnant and would have no physical limitations to sitting on a plane and standing during the ceremony. But some women will. It’s not possible to predict in advance, either. Offer her the option of having a chair during the ceremony. Let her pick her shoes.

She will need to check with her insurance and find out if she is covered in HI, just in case. And yes, there is a point where most doctors will tell you not to travel or fly, but it varies by doctor and by situation. A friend flew ~6 hours to her sister’s wedding when she was about 8 mo pg. But again, not everyone will be willing to or can.

Post # 13
19 posts
  • Wedding: June 2009

My sister will be 7 and a half months pregnant and flying from CA to NY, so I can definitely relate to your concerns.  Her doctor said she will be good to fly, but if this was her last pregnancy then she wouldn’t have been able to because she was having complications.  It depends a lot on the individual.  If she does decide to be part of the court, make sure she has ample WATER!  She’ll dehydrate a lot faster than she’s used to with the baby.

Post # 14
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Been there, done that.  I will speak from my experience.  My doctor wouldn’t let me fly after 36 weeks.  I believe that is probably standard.  And that is for healthy pregnancies.  If there are any complications, forget about it. 

And Rosy is right about incusrance.  If you travel out side the coverage area, your Bridesmaid or Best Man will have to get ready to pony up the whole shot for her child to be born at a Hawaiian hospital. 

I’ve heard the deal about airlines and requiring a doctor’s note, but I’m not sure if that would really stop her.  If it’s her first pregnancy, she might not look like she’s 8 months pregnant, and therefore no one will ask.  Who wants to screw that up???  Also, what’s to say, if she is rather large at that time, that she could tell the airline people that she was really only 6 months pregnant?

I don’t think she’ll be going.

Post # 15
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

She won’t be able to fly probably and won’t want to even if she gets permission. I flew for the last time at 36 weeks exactly and I swear the baby was up in my throat the whole flight. I wanted to die by the time i got off the plane. Oh, I’m about to throw up just thinking about how miserable I was. Anyway, give her an out and tell her to email me if won’t take it! 😉 It’s HORRIBLE.  

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