(Closed) Pregnant bridesmaid advice!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m currently in the same boat, one of my BMs is due about uh 4 days BEFORE my wedding. Obviously I’m not sure how things will pan out, but she still wants to be a bridesmaids and be part of my wedding, which I’m obviously happy about. I didn’t want her to spend money on a dress no not be able to wear it, but she said she’s not worried. So we’re just going to play it by ear and see how things go haha 

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My best friend’s wedding was in late May of 2014 and one of our dear friends/one of her bridesmaids was due mid July. She not only traveled 300 miles by train one way and by car the other way but she helped set up the rehearsal and the wedding venue and was up and around for all the pictures and the entire ceremony. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

sweetness09:  Last year I was in a wedding where one of the bridesmaids was pregnant. Everything turned out fine. She came to the wedding and gave birth 3 weeks later. I think it really all depends on what she wants to do. If she wants to be there, great! If she can’t be there, ok that’s her decision. You really can’t do anything until you get closer to the wedding and see how she’s feeling

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

sweetness09:  here’s the thing– you have no idea what will happen. I delivered vaginally and unmediated 1 week early. In a month I would be able to be in a wedding, but would be nursing every hour and would not be able to use toilet paper yet (squirt bottles are so attractive). I would be able to do it though. I’d be a crappy bridesmaid, but I could make it.

If I gave birth 2 weeks late (perfectly normal) and had to be induced that led to a c-section, I wouldn’t be able to do it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

sweetness09:  I am in a very similar boat.  My closest friend and bridesmaid is due 1 week after my wedding.  Because we live across the country from each other, she will be unable to make my wedding.  I understand the joint sadness and happiness!  To be honest, I’m glad she is due so close to my wedding date – it has removed all the “what if” scenarios, and that has relaxed both of us.  Since she can’t be there, we are facetiming when the rest of the bridal party is getting ready, and then the ceremony as well.  

She was really, really sad about not being able to make my wedding, and was carrying a lot of guilt.  The first thing I told her was that 1) she has nothing to feel guilty about and 2) near or far, she’s my bridesmaid.  I’m not sure how your friend feels, but it’s probably a rollar coaster.  It’s great that she wants to help plan your shower.  Maybe ask her what kind of support she will need to help plan (aka, reduce stress)?  Having a friend or two who can help her will go a long way, and will probably be more fun than planning a shower by herself.  It’s tough to know how a pregnancy will go.  I have one friend who didn’t change one thing about her daily routine (and she works with cattle), and a cousin who experienced “pregnancy brain”, and was constantly forgetting things.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  Kannon.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We have 2 people in our bridal party that are actively trying so we could end up with 1 pregnant Matron of Honor and 1 pregnant bridesmaid. The best man (FBIL) and his wife (FSIL) also plan to start trying soon.

I hope they all 3 get pregnant soon so all the babies can come to the wedding haha

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I don’t currently (we’re 9 months away, so it’s still possible) but I was in a wedding where the bride’s SIL was 8 months pregnant with her first child at the time of the wedding. She wore heels and danced! It definitely depends on how your Maid/Matron of Honor is feeling, but she could be doing fine by the time of your wedding 🙂

Post # 10
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Newbee

My sister, and bridesmaid, is pregnant, and due the week after my wedding  She has been fully involved, got her dress altered to accomodate her, and has plans to attend all events. I’m completely understanding and realize that we can’t always control things like giving birth, so we will go with the flow & take it as it comes. As long as her & the baby are healthy, that’s what matters.

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