Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor just told me she’s pregnant and she’s due about 3 weeks after my wedding. While giving me the news, she told me she’s not sure if she’ll be able to make the wedding and will see how things go. The thought of her not being there saddens me of course, but obviously the safety of her baby is number one.
I was wondering if anyone else had an experience similar with a bridesmaid being close to her due date when you got married and how things turned out. Did they make the wedding? What did you do to help make it easier on them?
She’s planning my shower for July and don’t her to feel stressed with things.
Post # 2
I’m currently in the same boat, one of my BMs is due about uh 4 days BEFORE my wedding. Obviously I’m not sure how things will pan out, but she still wants to be a bridesmaids and be part of my wedding, which I’m obviously happy about. I didn’t want her to spend money on a dress no not be able to wear it, but she said she’s not worried. So we’re just going to play it by ear and see how things go haha
Post # 3
My best friend’s wedding was in late May of 2014 and one of our dear friends/one of her bridesmaids was due mid July. She not only traveled 300 miles by train one way and by car the other way but she helped set up the rehearsal and the wedding venue and was up and around for all the pictures and the entire ceremony.
Post # 4
sweetness09: Last year I was in a wedding where one of the bridesmaids was pregnant. Everything turned out fine. She came to the wedding and gave birth 3 weeks later. I think it really all depends on what she wants to do. If she wants to be there, great! If she can’t be there, ok that’s her decision. You really can’t do anything until you get closer to the wedding and see how she’s feeling
Post # 5
sweetness09: here’s the thing– you have no idea what will happen. I delivered vaginally and unmediated 1 week early. In a month I would be able to be in a wedding, but would be nursing every hour and would not be able to use toilet paper yet (squirt bottles are so attractive). I would be able to do it though. I’d be a crappy bridesmaid, but I could make it.
If I gave birth 2 weeks late (perfectly normal) and had to be induced that led to a c-section, I wouldn’t be able to do it.
Post # 6
missskay24: Wow, so close together! That’s sweet of her to still want to partake if she can though.
MissDeer: Holy crap, what an incredible friend! That’s dedication
acglandorf: Great to hear! That’s what I’m hoping happens with my friend. It seemed like she was already anticipating not coming from her wording though. We’ll see!
Pollywog: Makes sense, I’m sure it wouldn’t have been easy! I know circumstance has a lot to do it. I’ve seen a mom to be totally chill after her water broke getting her hair done and others on bed rest so I know it depends on the situation.
Post # 7
sweetness09: I am in a very similar boat. My closest friend and bridesmaid is due 1 week after my wedding. Because we live across the country from each other, she will be unable to make my wedding. I understand the joint sadness and happiness! To be honest, I’m glad she is due so close to my wedding date – it has removed all the “what if” scenarios, and that has relaxed both of us. Since she can’t be there, we are facetiming when the rest of the bridal party is getting ready, and then the ceremony as well.
She was really, really sad about not being able to make my wedding, and was carrying a lot of guilt. The first thing I told her was that 1) she has nothing to feel guilty about and 2) near or far, she’s my bridesmaid. I’m not sure how your friend feels, but it’s probably a rollar coaster. It’s great that she wants to help plan your shower. Maybe ask her what kind of support she will need to help plan (aka, reduce stress)? Having a friend or two who can help her will go a long way, and will probably be more fun than planning a shower by herself. It’s tough to know how a pregnancy will go. I have one friend who didn’t change one thing about her daily routine (and she works with cattle), and a cousin who experienced “pregnancy brain”, and was constantly forgetting things.
Post # 8
We have 2 people in our bridal party that are actively trying so we could end up with 1 pregnant Matron of Honor and 1 pregnant bridesmaid. The best man (FBIL) and his wife (FSIL) also plan to start trying soon.
I hope they all 3 get pregnant soon so all the babies can come to the wedding haha
Post # 9
I don’t currently (we’re 9 months away, so it’s still possible) but I was in a wedding where the bride’s SIL was 8 months pregnant with her first child at the time of the wedding. She wore heels and danced! It definitely depends on how your Maid/Matron of Honor is feeling, but she could be doing fine by the time of your wedding 🙂
Post # 10
My sister, and bridesmaid, is pregnant, and due the week after my wedding She has been fully involved, got her dress altered to accomodate her, and has plans to attend all events. I’m completely understanding and realize that we can’t always control things like giving birth, so we will go with the flow & take it as it comes. As long as her & the baby are healthy, that’s what matters.
Post # 11
Just catching up on this thread from a couple weeks ago!
Kannon: Aw facetiming is a great idea! I do agree it’s nice knowing the answer that she’s not coming as opposed to not being sure. I do have another Maid/Matron of Honor (we were all best friends from high school) and 5 other girls so there is definitely help where needed!
Thanjs for all the other replies ladies! It’s good to know how others have handled it!