Pregnant Bridesmaid AFTER Ordering Dresses

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

can you find something with a similar neckline and length with an empire waist? This will help it to be maternity apropriate without sticking out so much.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@wifetobe7302011: perhaps she said it was planned because to say otherwise might look bad to her?  Not everyone feels right saying it was an “accident”, especially when a lot of people don’t see their baby/child to be an “accident” if they’re going to love it. It can be complicated…

As for the dress, it’s impossible to say how big she’ll be.  With my son, I was the good year blimp by 6 months, my daughter, it was a small bump.  (admittedly, she decided to REALLY show herself by the end, but still! lol).

I’d say having one girl who’s got a baby-bump in a different style dress wouldn’t be a bad thing, all things considered.  If she’s okay with it, and you are too, I wouldn’t worry.  I doubt the other girls are going to throw a fit because of this.

The only other options would be 1) have her step down or 2)see if it can be altered.  A good seamstress can tell you now if the dress can be altered or not.

good luck!!!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

this is one of those things, fortunately, that will work itself out.  she’s not going to wear a dress that doesn’t fit her, which will force her to either a) buy herself a new dress or b) bow out. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Having her in a different dress won’t be that terrible. Ask her if she can buy a new one and if it becomes too much perhaps find another job, such as a reader.

Maybe it was planned, but at the time she thought it wasn’t going to happen as quickly as it did, and therefore wouldn’t affect the dress selection. No one wants to ruin your vision for something that might not even happen/be an issue. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

@Mrs. Meowerson: I agree. Honestly, I wouldn’t feel bad about asking her to buy another dress if it was me (or asking her to bow out). She told you she wouldn’t get pregnant. Whatever the reasons (accident or not), she got pregnant. It’s on her to fix it.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@wifetobe7302011: My sister after ordering her dress came up pregnant. Her husband and her were trying, but not everyone communicates that as it is very personal. Even as best friends and family we may not always know ahead of time of these things, even if we think we would.

Depending upon where you bought the dress it may be less of an issue than you think.  My sister was able to order herself a new dress and pay a 10% penalty charge or restocking fee and not have to spend the money to buy an entire new dress.  They will probably be able to move the band up to under the breasts and order it in a longer length so that it has a similar look.

Please don’t take this the wrong way, but as brides we sometimes forget that the world does not actually revolve around us and our friends and family have their own lives. Being upset because someone is having a big life change during your wedding planning is a little “bridezilla-y”. Try to find a solution first and if you can’t then make her a reader 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

this is happening to me too…..except with 2 bridesmaids that will be 8 & 9 months pregnant at the wedding

they had to buy another dress, on their own dime

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Plans change and as far as baby making goes it’s a rather personal/emotional question to ask, even if a dress choice is at stake. 

I’m not sure what your dress looks like but at 6 months pregnant depending on how fitted it is I could wear it just fine with a little alteration so it probably won’t be that big of a deal.  I think almost all my dresses still fit or almost fit at 6 months.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@wifetobe7302011: i think you need to let this go.  it’s really no one’s business if they are trying except for them, and there could be a myriad of reasons why they’d want to keep this to themselves (maybe they feel as though they would embarass themselves if they can’t conceive).

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Mrs. Meowerson: I completely agree with you.  Especially since it’s pretty common to NOT CONCIEVE in the first six months of trying.  I was told by my dr to not worry unless you haven’t concieved in A YEAR (which is also the norm).  So, yeah, she probably didn’t EXPECT to become pregnant so soon.

Also… no offense, but that is NO ONE’S business but the couples.  I’d probably look at the person asking and straight out say “none of your business”. Or something to that affect. 

Besides, if you actually have to ASK this question, wouldn’t that also mean there’s the CHANCE that it could happen?  I highly doubt anyone is going to put their family plans on hold because a friend is getting married and they were asked to be a part of the bridal party.  To ask that, IS being a bridezilla, in my opinion.

There’s also the fact she might have been “not trying not to” (or as I like to put it “come what may”).  So, it’s possible she wasn’t trying TO have one, but she also wasn’t trying NOT TO.  There are also medical reasons why people stop taking birth control.  So, unless you ASKED why she stopped taking it and she came out and said because they were trying, you can’t assume it was to try to have a child.

If it were me, I’d be happy for her and her husband and not be worrying so much about a dress that can be altered or bought in a different style or size.  That’s what friends do, right?  Support each other and be happy for such events?

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@wifetobe7302011:

I understand why you’re angry, since she knew she was pregnant when you ordered the dress.  But keep in mind that most people keep pregnancies secret until they’re 12 weeks along, since the risk of miscarriage is fairly high until that point. 

But given that she knew this when you ordered the dresses, she shouldn’t object to having to buy a different dress. 

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