Post # 1
One of my Bridesmaids who is due 2 weeks after my wedding has decided to not be a part of the wedding party (completely on her own with no pressure from me). My fiance is very interested in keeping the wedding party equal (5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen) so I was wondering if it would be ok to ask another close friend of mine(who was actually going to be #6 if we had 6 on each side) to stand up. I have some concerns with doing this:
1) I do not want to offend the pregnant bridesmaid and want to keep her very involved in everything as if she was still standing up
2) I do not want to offend the new bridesmaid (“why am I a replacement?” or “why was I not asked instead?”)
Any advice/help with this situation will be greatly appreciated! Thank you all in advance! 🙂
Post # 3
@jgrabows12: Given how close you are to the wedding, I would probably leave it as it is. It might be difficult for the new girl to get a dress in time. And yes, she might feel like a “replacement” given it is less than a month before the wedding (if your listed date is correct).
Uneven numbers are fine and who knows, your friend may decide at the last minute to stand up in the wedding.
Is your friend still attending your wedding? Is it possible for her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, walk down the aisle and then take a seat instead of standing? She could stand for a few minutes (for photos sake) and then sit for the majority of the cermony.
Post # 4
@jayjaybee: She is going to try to make it but the wedding is taking place 2 hours from her home town so shes not sure how she will be at that point or if the dr will even let her travel then. The wedding is about 4.5 months away. She has not ordered her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, and the other girls are just ordering theirs now.
Post # 5
@jgrabows12: Oh ok, sorry, just realized it says August, I thought it said April for some reason.
I would still feel like the new girl might feel like a replacement, but I would be up front about the situation with her. And then ask if she would do the honor of standing up in your wedding.
Post # 6
I would talk to both parties involved but I would go ahead and repplace her. SHe chose to step down so she shouldnt be offended.
Post # 7
As long as you say something like “I wanted you as a sixth Bridesmaid or Best Man, but Fiance only wanted five. But now that XXX got knocked up, I want you to stand up for me so badly! Please!”