Post # 17
@Alli259: You should DEFINITELY not be upset, because it’s not about you–it would be utterly unfair for you to expect that she put her family plans on hold so she won’t *hypothetically* be too pregnant to be in your bridal party. As others have said, wait for her to tell you and your fiance… I know you heard through the grapevine but if she hasn’t told you herself, don’t bring it up. I would not consider saying ANYTHING to her on the topic until she actually announces that she’s pregs. If the timeframe looks like it might make it difficult for her to be in the wedding, then you guys can discuss that then. Anything before then is way premature.
Post # 18
My friend is going to be VERY pregnant on my wedding day… 8 1/2 months. She still wants to be in the wedding and I still want her in it. I dont care if she is prego or not, she is my friend and want her up there with me on my day 🙂
Post # 19
Just because she’s TTC doesn’t mean she will be pregnant by then. I took us 8 months to get pregnant and we’re healthy and young. It takes many people 6 months to a year. I wouldn’t worry and if by chance she’s extremely lucky and gets pregnant right away, she will know if being in your wedding party is doable for her and if it’s not, she’ll talk to you about it, but I wouldn’t count her out because she wants to have a baby.
Post # 20
First of all, don’t treat her as though she is disabled. Being pregnant is not an illness of any kind, despite what alot of brides believe. A bridesmaid should be someone you want to stand up with you regardless of their physical condition. I would never intentionally cross someone off the list because they were pregnant or planning to be. Unless she’s on strict bedrest orders from her doctor, then there is no reason to eliminate her from your group of attendants.
Post # 21
My Maid/Matron of Honor is due 2 days after our wedding date! I knew her and her husband were trying for #4 when I asked her. We won’t know if she’ll be in the wedding or in labor until the day of the wedding (some of her kids were born early and some were right on the due date). But, none of us would change one bit of the suspense!
Don’t stress! It’ll all work out. A wedding is just one day, don’t expect people to re-arrange their family planning around it.
PS. I also have two more bridesmaids trying to get pregnant, and 2 groomsman as well, and the best man’s wife is pregnant-due 2.5 weeks after the wedding. Lots of babies!
Post # 22
if my bridesmaids got pregnant i would be ok, I can’t stop them from their lives..but i do think that no more than 8 months as she would probably be so uncomfortable!!!
Post # 23
I had two pregnant bridesmaids (out of five!) It was just fine. One was about 4.5 months and the other was 8.5. Both girls were amazing. Now that both babies are born, I love how I get to think “they were kind of in my wedding, too!”
Post # 24
Love the positive spin you put on it about thinking the babies were kind of in the wedding too. That’s an awesome way to think about it.
I just wanted to put it out there that I by no means think pregnancy is a disability @Ember78:
or that people should put there lives on hold because of my wedding @starbuck:
. And I am not worried about someone stealing the “spotlight” (there are tons of kids in the wedding party… even 2 ring bearers that will be 1 year old… who knows if they will walk down the isle… and I’m perfectly OK with that… if things don’t go as planned).
I think pregnancy is a beautiful thing and would be happy if she were pregnant and expecting a little one… I just starting thinking about how it “might” impact the wedding/plans and wanted to hear others stories.
So thank you Bees for sharing, it has really put my mind at ease.
Post # 25
My sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor and at my wedding she was 7 months pregnant. She still rocked it and did everything! She threw me an amazing shower and even threw the bachlorette party. It was awesome! Plus when I got mad at others she would yell at them and blame it on pregnancy hormones 🙂
Post # 26
Haha that’s awesome. Glad to hear it went well!!
Post # 27
Your bridal party shouldn’t be about looks but about who you want to be up there and support you. If she wants to be a part of the bridal party knowing that she may or may not be pregnant and/or a new mom to support you and FH then absolutely! To not even ask her because of the possibility of that would be silly to me.
Post # 28
I would suggest you talk to her, if she is OK with it.. then you shouldn’t be upset.
Post # 29
My SIL was 8.5 months pregnant when DH and I got married, and she was in the wedding. I was so excited for the first new addition to the family and that I would offically be the little one’s aunt. I just wanted to make sure that she still wanted to be in the wedding party. I spoke with her and let her know I really wanted her to be one of my bridesmaids but I would understand that with being pregnant for the first time and planning for the baby she might not want to be in the wedding. She did want to be a bridesmaid and on the day of the wedding I just checked-in with her and let her know she should take care of herself, we had a seat ready in case she needed it during the ceremony, and my Mother-In-Law and one of DH’s aunts helped out my SIL if she needed anything. It was totally fine and I was so happy and grateful to have my SIL as a member of my bridal party. Our neice was born exactly two weeks after our wedding day.
Post # 30
I have a Bridesmaid or Best Man that will be 38-39 weeks at our wedding after trying for 5 years we will follow her with a mop if need be lol and both my other BMs are considering TTC. The only input I gave since their dresses are already here is that they might try not to be over 9 weeks just so their dresses fit! I asked my very pg friend if she thought she could still do it and she wouldn’t miss it for the world. She was even willing to wear killer heels, I refuse to let her so the only thing it changed is that the girls won’t have matching shoes.
Post # 31
It’s a yay for me. Life doesn’t wait for weddings, nor should it.