Post # 16
Grape juice looks like wine! Bring a little grape juice box and switch what’s in your glass when no one is watching. Or if you drink beers from the bottle, with dark or coloured glass bottles you can’t tell what’s in it – pour out the beer and fill it with water.
People are a lot less astute than you think. I did a lot of fake drinking and no one questioned me.
People WILL speculate if they see you aren’t drinking. If they are rude enough to ask you just lie and say you aren’t pregnant, you are on antibiotics or you are trying to cut back or something.
But yeah it’s way too soon to worry about this.
Post # 17
I was pregnant around thanksgiving but didn’t know it yet. I would just have your husband mix drinks and worry about it when you’re pregnant.
Post # 18
raspberrymojito : actually, grape juice is too purple- pomegranate or tart cherry is actually better haha!
Post # 19
I have a friend whose husband filled brown beer bottles with water for her. And another whose husband would ask for “sips” of her drink and drink a bunch everytime.
Post # 20
missorange : There are plenty of sneaky tricks. Say you’re on antibiotics. If your friends are like mine, they will say to make an exception. Tell them they are the type that make you very sick if you drink (some are Bactrim, Flagyl). Also, have your husband make your ‘drinks’. Make sure they look like something you would actually drink though – that was my reveal with close friends, they knew something was up when I was ‘drinking’ gin & tonics instead of wine , beer or scotch.
Post # 21
MrsAKSkier : worked for me, maybe it depends on the brand?
Post # 22
It should be fairly simple if you can just relax. It can be stressful because you THINK that everyone is watching you, but they’re not really.
If you must seem like you are drinking, Keep a glass of wine/beer/cocktail around. You don’t have to drink it, just mingle with it. Have Darling Husband take a sip every so often so it goes down.
If you do drink beer, you are in the clear. Just bring cans!
No one notices UNLESS you make a point of refusing (when you normally always drink), or offering up an elaborate tale. Normalcy is key.
Post # 23
I think the key is to accept a drink. People notice if you refuse a drink, but nobody is really watching to see if you actually drink it. And the antobiotics excuse always sounds like BS. Take the drink and fake taking sips and then secretly dump it, ditch it or have Darling Husband drink some. That’s what I did and nobody suspected.
Post # 24
My sister said she was doing Stoptober- in the UK it’s a cancer research charity thing in October where you’re sponsored for giving up alcohol. Worked like a charm. We also have a dry January thing.
You could do something similar.
My sister didn’t actually ask for sponsorship though, and if anyone gave her money she kept hold of it until she was ready for people to know and gave them their money back. (Everyone refused and told her to donate it anyway)
Post # 25
My husband drank my drinks, he got quite merry 😀
Post # 26
I wouldn’t worry about this now. When you’re pregnant you can decide.
Driving was the excuse I gave. No one questioned that at all
Post # 27
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We’re also planning to TTC in the Fall and (fingers crossed) if we get pregnant right away I also am nervous about being newly pregnant for the holidays! I’d love to keep it a secret from everyone until 12 weeks, but I am so freaking excited that I feel like it’d be really hard to keep it from family etc during that time. Especially if there’s morning sickness, fatigue, weird food cravings etc. I made the mistake of telling them we’re going to start trying this Fall so they’ll probably all be more astute/curious. Rookie mistake! I am just so excited and have the worst baby fever that I couldn’t keep my mouth shut!
Post # 28
Yeah this was me. I got pregnant last October. We had a ton of social events lined up and we are quite a boozey group. We ended up telling our close friends around the 6/8 week mark just as it was obvious and we could only use the ‘im driving’ excuse so many times. We just asked them to keep it to themselves.
Then in Jan after we’d had tests we wanted, we announced it publicly.
Dont overly worry. Who knows when you’ll get pregnant. If it is over the holidays you may just find it easier to tell people who must know earlier than you’d like but you can’t manage every element and they’ll always be other parties/events at other times of the year that’ll throw speculation so just go ahead as you planned and fudge where you can to delay telling people as late as possible if that’s important to you.
Post # 29
When I stopped drinking nobody batted an eyelid and I was a drinker! I just told everyone my tolerance had gone down and the hangovers just weren’t worth it anymore! 👍
Post # 30
I wouldn’t worry about until times come. I wouldn’t not plan a pregnancy for this reason. Like others said you may not be pregnant yet, if so decide ahead of time.
DH’s family are also big celebraters and there is always beer/wine. I was pregnant early on and hubby drank some beers a few days before, filled them with sparkling cider (they were Angry Orchard) and re bottled capped them. I drank those. Guess what? His brother STILL brought up bun in oven, etc, etc and I’m like “I’m drinking?”. You could also say heartburn, etc, etc but yea, people will probably think you’re pregnant. Your best bet is just carry glass/bottle and sip on it. Even for a little bit and then say you’re not feeling well (drank too much night before).