(Closed) Pregnant Friend – to ask or not to ask?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
2445 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would just have a discussion with her. It doesn’t have to be you asking outright, but you can approach the topic of bridesmaids and ask how she would feel about it? And express your concerns about not wanting to stress her or impose. Hopefully she can be honest with you, and I’m sure she would appreciate it.

Post # 4
4040 posts
Honey bee

I remember my C-sections – both in July, so I could watch my feet swell. I went to one cousin’s wedding, as a guest, about a month later. I could walk upright, but I did not feel too well, and left early. I agree about just talking to her. Since this isn’t her first baby, she probably knows her own limits. 

Post # 5
3339 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I would say the exact same thing to her that you just said to us.  Give her the option and let her decide.  Say you don’t want to add stress or make her uncomfortable.  You want her to be a part of it if she can, but you completely understand if that’s too much of a commitment.

Post # 6
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

OMGMrsW2B:  Continue with your plan to have her as a maid, if she feels that she will not be able to do so she will let you know or may be set up some sort of plan.


One of my best friends just found out she is expecting and her baby is due in Jan, since we are having a destination wedding in July she will not be able to attend due to the new cost of the baby. So she is still a bridesmaid she is helping with email responses/inquiries for photographers, favors and alot of little stuff that adds up but it saves me a bunch of time.  We talked alot about her decision not to come ( she really wanted to  but cost wise it was out of the question) but she felt better know she is helping out as a maid but not actually able to attend the wedding, Hope this helps you



Post # 7
1059 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

OMGMrsW2B:  Only she will know if it will be too much. My Maid/Matron of Honor is having her first baby 4 months before my wedding and she is adament that she will be fine because she has the support. It really depends on the person.

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