(Closed) Pregnant! How to cancel big wedding after sending STD?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would say writing a letter (not email) to everybody. Explain to those that are no longer going to be invited to the wedding that you’re excited to announce your pregnancy. In light of this wonderful news, you and your fiance have decided to have a smaller, more intimate ceremony. Say something along the lines of “while we wish we could invite many more people, we’ve decided it’s best for our future and little baby X to cut back on the guest list.” Then say that you hope they understand the change in circumstances, and would love to celebrate the baby’s birth with them. 

Post # 4
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Firstly congratulations!


Secondly, I agree with the above poster, only to say that you can do the same thing in person or via a phone call when you’re telling family/friends about the baby. But I’m sure people will understand, weddings are expensive as are babies, and you have to prioritise.

Post # 5
482 posts
Helper bee

+1 to PPs. I think that there is a section in Emily Post’s book on wedding etiquette about post-poning/cancelling a wedding. :}

Congrats on your lovely news!

Post # 6
3267 posts
Sugar bee

send out a cancelation notice to everyone invited, then send out new invitations to your new event th those you wish to include.

Post # 7
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@andielovesj:  Agreed – cancel the wedding altogether, then send out new invites. Doing it the other way just too pointedly sends the message of, ‘You didn’t make our cut.’

Post # 8
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Please don’t say ANYTHING about “cutting back the list” or “having a smaller wedding”. That’s SOOOOO rude, basically saying to your guests “you were always B list”


I agree with whoever say “cancel the wedding, then send new invites”



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