Post # 1
I graduated almost a year ago and am regreting my choice of major and am seriously considering spending a few years finishing up some med school pre-reqs and then applying.
Do you think this would mean no kids until after medical school and possibly my residency? Can you do both?
Post # 3
I doubt you would have time for kids in med school or residency. I have friends who are in med school and it seems like they barely have any free time and residents work ridiculously long shifts which wouldn’t be good for a baby.
Post # 4
I have friends who had kids in med school and friends who did it in residency. Their cumulative advice is that it is much better to do in med school– especially 4th year. It can be done (though not by me!)
I still work 60-70 hours a week, but it’s not so regimented like in residency. If you want to know more about what medicine is like you can either pm me or we could even meet in person (considering I’m in Seattle)
🙂 I’d recommend my job. I love it!
Post # 5
It would be very hard for sure. What specialty would you want? That can easily add a ton of years after the 4 years of med school. Could you be happy being a nurse or PA instead? It would definitely be hard, unless your husband will be able to be the primary caregiver. If so, could you try to have one kid before you go to med school? He’d also need to bring in $$ or you’d have to have a ton saved up beforehand in that case.
I do know one lady that had her baby during a break in her residencies, but she ended up delivering early, and it just sounded really stressful… somehow they made it work!
Post # 6
I know so many people who did this, though. It can be done. 11 people in my residency had babies in 1 year. It’s hard and they were tired, but they made it work. I think it helps that they were younger and more energetic than me!
If it is really what will make you happy, then you’ll find a way to make it work… and you shouldn’t settle for anything less 🙂
Post # 7
I am in a 4 year doctorate program (pharmacy, not medicine, but the program is through a traditionally “medical school”). We had combined medical/ pharmacy classes for almost a year and it was really hard – without a baby that is. I can’t imagine going through that with a child.
There were many days where I would have class for 8 hours then have to go home and study for another 8 hours or I would not pass my classes (it was like that for everyone – not just me). Or the days where we “only” had the same class (example micro) for 5 hours a day and then having to go home and study for 12+ hours. It was a pretty exhausting experience. Now that I am further in the program, I am more focused on pharmacy, but I know that the pressure just keeps growing for the medical students.
I can’t really comment on the challenges of having a child while in residency; all of the residents I know are very much focused on their residencies.
I’m not saying it’s impossible, but know what you’re getting yourself into. It would definitely be very helpful if you had a good support system in place.
Post # 8
I’ll chime in from a different perspective. I take care of a young boy whose parents are both medical residents. I’ll go over there early in the moring (between 5 am and 7 am) and get him dressed and ready for daycare. I drop him off around 7:30 am and they pick him up at 5:45pm or someone else picks him up and stays with him until they get home. One or both parents sometimes have to work weekends or nights, so it’s really hit or miss if their schedules overlap and I think sometimes the baby gets lost in the shuffle. I think it can be done without a doubt, but it doesn’t seem easy.
Post # 9
Yea, I guess I was just wanting to hear encouragement. I graduated last year with a BA and I find myself wanting more…education, something. I have a degree in Anthropology and it’s hard to find my way into any career, let alone a challenging and fulfilling one.
I could do nursing but, and I know this sounds silly, but my Maid/Matron of Honor and my sister are going to school for that now and I kinda dont want to “copy” them. I know that sounds rediculous.
Like medical school won’t steal their attention away. I guess I just need to learn more about other career options before I do anything. I want to know that i can undertake another field of study and still have a normal adult life. Graduate school in medical anthro is an obvious choice but I’ve heard a lot about struggling financially after you graduate, though residents don’t make much either….I don’t know! I hate being young and “aimless”. Fi knows what he wants, has been into computers his whole life, going to school for it, great at it, doing it for work, I wish I had that!
Post # 10
Yeah, I totally understand what you’re saying, it’s hard to know what you want to do until you get out and do it. I totally believe that it is possible to have a career and a normal adult life! Especially if you have a partner who is really to work with you to help you realize your dreams and can share the load of the family.
I’m in nursing so I’m biased, but I think before applying to anything, if you still aren’t sure, I’d get out and shadow people or volunteer. Go volunteer in the hospital and talk to nurses, doctors and PAs and see what they say. Physicians Assistant might be the way to go if you are interested in medicine, but want more freedom to have a familiy. I don’t think that going into nursing would be copying your sisters either, I think it just says what a great field it is (that’s my bias showing!)
Post # 11
If medicine is what you want, there is seriously no reason not to do it. Many, many of my friends have kids now. I would dare say the majority. Sure the logistics are slightly challenging, but seriously, it is NO reason to turn yourself away from your ambitions.
I can introduce you to dozens of women who are doing it and doing it well. There are 8 women in the 3rd year resident class this year who are pregnant right now, as I was told the other day.
I’m happy to PM more details if you want, but I’d be really disheartened if medicine was your career love and you deflected away from it for this reason. It’s too easy to work out to make someone change their mind.
Post # 12
I’ve seen people have kids in medical school and graduate school. I think it is do-able, especially if you have a spouse who isn’t in school.
Before you go and switch careers I think you should job shadow some doctors and make sure that med school is something you really want to do. You’ve got a long road ahead of you, and it’s an expensive road, so just make sure this is what you really want before you start down that road.
Post # 13
Honestly if I were you I would go talk to the med schools you are interested in. Every program is different and has different requirements on time and scheduling – some are more family friendly than others. If you want kids and want to stay home with them or are opposed to having someone else caring for your child for a large majority of their time – then maybe you could look at some different options.
Post # 14
my niece was born right after my sil finished her first year of medical school. her school is very family friendly–she’s taking this year off (doing some research for her professors in the meantime) and it isn’t going to affect her professionally at all. so, from her experience, it can definitely be done, especially if the school is supportive
Post # 15
Go for the M.D.! I’m in med school now and I know quite a few ladies who are pregnant, had a baby, or are planning on having one sometime during residency. It is actually way more flexible than you would think. You can split 1 year into 2 years, or you can have a baby between med school and residency, or take a year off during residency. You will need help, but it can definitely be done.