(Closed) Pregnant /mama bees! I need your help to lie!

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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saratiara2:  honestly (as someone who has lost two pregnancies), I’d tell. I’d be honest that it is really, really early and that you’re cautiously optimistic. If you don’t tell, people will figure it out unless DH makes every drink for you. Honestly, there’s no chance of hiding it, so be up front and ask for discretion.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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saratiara2:   I would do my best to catch the server early and ask them for a virgin of whatever the popular drink that evening was or for one that looked alcoholic. They usually got what I was asking without needing to be told flat out and helped keep it going for the night. People just assumed my drink was alcoholic and didn’t pay much attention.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Can you say you could be pregnant but won’t know for another week and don’t want to risk it? That’s the only one id believe/

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Haha- I also went through this recently! 9 days in a cabin with my hard drinking family! I did a couple things- for Mexican night (this must be common!) I drank lemonade which looked an awful lot like the Jose Cuervo mix everyone else was drinking. The other thing I did was rinse out one of my husbands emptys and refilled it with water and sipped on that. No one said anything- so I think I fooled them. Congratulations and good luck!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

Depends how much of a drinker you usually are. I’m not a big drinker so if it were me I’d ask for ‘just a small glass of wine to start with’ and take a couple of small sips without actually drinking and then just don’t get any more. Say you aren’t feeling it. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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saratiara2:  You could tell your friends that you’ve had blood work done recently and were told you have low platelets.  Alcohol kills platelets so until they figure out what caused them to drop you’ve been advised not to drink (or get tattoos), plus no extremely physical sports, can’t risk the bruises.  I actually have low platelets but even people who didn’t know completely bought it and didn’t ask questions.

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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saratiara2:  Your could swear her to secrecy, and tell her you’re trying for a BFP so don’t want to take chances. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I fake drank.  Seltzer with a splash of cranberry or like a teaspoon worth of red wine looked like a rose spritzer.  Soda in a highball glass with lime looked like vodka soda.  My sister fake drank margaritas. . .limeade with a spash of orange juice.  

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My reason for telling is that you can easily hide the alcohol. It is much harder to hide the exhaustion, nausea, and food restrictions. Decaf coffee + early bed + microwaving deli meats will give you away.

At 4 weeks pregnant the coffee and deli meat gave me away to my aunt. I dodged the alcohol with the same crowd. With my parents, decaf and an early bedtime were the signs. I knew my SIL was pregnant at 6 weeks because she avoided tuna and sat down after 10 minutes. I thought I hid it from my staff on a work trip because I was eating grilled cheese and no veggies and went to bed early, but they caught the ginger beer and that I wasn’t eating my normal food and drinking my normal coffee.

I know how scary early pregnancy is. It’s such a blessing and it’s helpful for a few trusted people to know. Congratulations!

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I have never had children, but I would like to weigh in.

When my friend was pregnant and trying to hide it, I’d subtly drink her drinks for her. We’d order the same thing and keep switching glasses when nobody was looking. It actually worked! Maybe have your DH do the same for you?

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Honestly, any story you come up with will likely arouse suspicion.  I think your best bet is making yourself virgin drinks if possible.  If you end up with an alcoholic drink in front of you, don’t make a big deal about it and just take teeny “sips” occasionally until you can switch it out.  Definitely easier to avoid raising eyebrows that way!

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My sister in law would have a beer in hand and “sip it” and then swap with her husband so he could drink it. Or just hold the beer and pour some of it out every once in awhile.  She did a good job of hiding it.  I’m in the same boat. Going away with inlaws this weekend. 

Also, since my inlaws know we were in treatment, i’m gonna lie and tell them i dont want to drink cause i’m on drugs and we’re in treatment blah blah. Its technically true, they just do not need to know we got a BFP yet. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Maybe say you are on some type of medication that can’t be mixed with alcohol?

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

“I have a migraine and alcohol makes them worse. I’ve already taken something, I just don’t wanna push my luck.”

Works like a charm. It also explains fatigue and vomiting.

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