- 5 years ago
- Wedding: City, State
Can you say you could be pregnant but won’t know for another week and don’t want to risk it? That’s the only one id believe/
Haha- I also went through this recently! 9 days in a cabin with my hard drinking family! I did a couple things- for Mexican night (this must be common!) I drank lemonade which looked an awful lot like the Jose Cuervo mix everyone else was drinking. The other thing I did was rinse out one of my husbands emptys and refilled it with water and sipped on that. No one said anything- so I think I fooled them. Congratulations and good luck!
Depends how much of a drinker you usually are. I’m not a big drinker so if it were me I’d ask for ‘just a small glass of wine to start with’ and take a couple of small sips without actually drinking and then just don’t get any more. Say you aren’t feeling it.
I fake drank. Seltzer with a splash of cranberry or like a teaspoon worth of red wine looked like a rose spritzer. Soda in a highball glass with lime looked like vodka soda. My sister fake drank margaritas. . .limeade with a spash of orange juice.
My reason for telling is that you can easily hide the alcohol. It is much harder to hide the exhaustion, nausea, and food restrictions. Decaf coffee + early bed + microwaving deli meats will give you away.
At 4 weeks pregnant the coffee and deli meat gave me away to my aunt. I dodged the alcohol with the same crowd. With my parents, decaf and an early bedtime were the signs. I knew my SIL was pregnant at 6 weeks because she avoided tuna and sat down after 10 minutes. I thought I hid it from my staff on a work trip because I was eating grilled cheese and no veggies and went to bed early, but they caught the ginger beer and that I wasn’t eating my normal food and drinking my normal coffee.
I know how scary early pregnancy is. It’s such a blessing and it’s helpful for a few trusted people to know. Congratulations!
I have never had children, but I would like to weigh in.
When my friend was pregnant and trying to hide it, I’d subtly drink her drinks for her. We’d order the same thing and keep switching glasses when nobody was looking. It actually worked! Maybe have your DH do the same for you?
Honestly, any story you come up with will likely arouse suspicion. I think your best bet is making yourself virgin drinks if possible. If you end up with an alcoholic drink in front of you, don’t make a big deal about it and just take teeny “sips” occasionally until you can switch it out. Definitely easier to avoid raising eyebrows that way!
Thanks so much for the suggestions, ladies! Our female nurse friend does know we were struggling, and does know I was set to go for surgery to see if my Dr’s suspicions of endometriosis were true, so I think something around not drinking with endo (which is actually true), as recommended by our new Dr (it is true we had just switched clinics) might help. Plus, DH says he’ll be able to remember that when he’s drunk, lol.
I understand what poeple are saying that they’ll be suspicious, and yeah that’s probably true….but I don’t drink coffee anyway, and it’s a beach vacation so sleeping all week on the beach won’t be weird. I’m also the old lady of the group, because I am *always* the first to go to bed, so that will surprise no one. I don’t care/can’t do anything if they’re suspicious, I’m just personally not ready to confirm. We’ve told the people we agreed we were comfortable sharing with, and since we won’t have even had an ultrasound yet I’m just really not ready to expand that circle.
My sister in law would have a beer in hand and “sip it” and then swap with her husband so he could drink it. Or just hold the beer and pour some of it out every once in awhile. She did a good job of hiding it. I’m in the same boat. Going away with inlaws this weekend.
Also, since my inlaws know we were in treatment, i’m gonna lie and tell them i dont want to drink cause i’m on drugs and we’re in treatment blah blah. Its technically true, they just do not need to know we got a BFP yet.
Maybe say you are on some type of medication that can’t be mixed with alcohol?
“I have a migraine and alcohol makes them worse. I’ve already taken something, I just don’t wanna push my luck.”
Works like a charm. It also explains fatigue and vomiting.
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