Post # 1
I need some advice Bees! My lovely Maid/Matron of Honor just found out she is pregnant! I am stoked for her. however, she is due the day before my wedding. So, what do I do? Do I chose another MOH? I can’t imagine anyone else in this role for my wedding. Can she participate in all the pre-wedding activities…helping me out tremendously….and not come to the wedding? How should I approach this with her?
Post # 3
Well in that situation I would ask her what does she think she would be comfortable with? Is this her first child? If so, she probably has no idea what she will be like if not, then she may be able to better tell you what she will and will not be capable of. If she is due a day before your wedding I will write her off for a good month before your wedding. Right around 8 months, pregnant women are pretty much not going to feel like doing a whole lot but giving birth, LOL! So if I were you I would maybe upgrade the bridesmaid you feel the closest to and make your pregnant friend an honorary maid of honor or bridesmaid but dont set yourself up for dissappointment by expecting her to be able to perform ALL of the Maid/Matron of Honor duties b/c there is a possibility she wont!
Post # 4
She told you she is due the day before your wedding and left it at that? I would hope that SHE would be the one to be like…”and because of that, I really don’t think I will be able to fulfill the ‘duties’ of a Maid/Matron of Honor…”
Because yeah, it is definitely very rude for you to ask her to “step down,” so I would hope she has the grace to bring it up herself! Well, basically I am saying, I think whatever you decide, you should make her part of the decision process. If she never offers herself to step down, then I suppose you could gently bring it up yourself, if you are very close to her and sure she won’t get offended.