(Closed) Pregnant MOH!!!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would let her know that you understand if she wants to step down as Maid/Matron of Honor. If I were in her shoes, I’d be freaked to be expected to be in a wedding 6 hours away at the same time I’m due.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Realistically i dont think shell make it, whether its driving or flying long journiesnarent easy pregnant

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@lilhenry89:  I haven’t had either but I did have a 9 month pregnant guest. She couldn’t stand very long and they even let her in the venue early because there was nowhere to sit otherwise. Other than that, she had a great time and even got up to dance a few songs. She went on to go to a few other weddings before she delivered but they were also all local.

We also knew someone else who drove about that long into a neighboring state and the mom was only 8 months pregnant and they ended up delivering on their trip (luckily, they were visiting her parents anyway). No airline carrier will let her fly at 9 months so she would have to drive, take a bus or take a train. Out of those three options, she has the most control over driving. She’ll have to get medical records from her doctor for any travelling. I’m at 14 weeks and even now my doctor insists that even if I go out of town for the weekend that I pick up a copy of my medical records.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

She probably won’t be able to make it…that’s a lot of travel for someone that pregnant, and there’s a good chance she will have already had the baby by that time!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

i did have one of my closest friends pull out of coming to my wedding ( but not bm or moh) because she was due a week after my wedding. she lived 2 hrs away but the roads to get to my town from where she is has a lot of dirt. i didnt want her to risk it.. she went into labor the night of my wedding and had him two days after. Its not an experience that i would have wanted her to go through at all.. im not sure if this is helping you at all. but she needs to make the decision, and you need to support it. Im 9months atm and i hve good days and bad days, where i think i can rule the world to i need to sleep all day. Hope it all works out for you. 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

One of my BMs will be 38 weeks at our wedding. If she’s comfortable being in your wedding party, I would let her!

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My sister is one of my MOHs. She has a C-Section scheduled two weeks after the wedding. This is her fourth pregnancy and all of her children have been early. We have a plan in place if she does go into labor as the wedding is 2 1/2 hours from the hospital the baby will be born at. She insists that she wants to be part of it and worse case scenario she will have to leave early. I also will have a seat for her if she is feeling uncomfortable during the ceremony. I think it’s best to be prepared especially since she wants to be part of the wedding. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@lilhenry89:  I think she’s dreaming if she thinks she will be able to come. Sorry but by nine months you are exhausted and need to remain close to home, not only for you but for the baby.   Sitting in a car for 6 hours seems a little unrealistic in my opinion. Being her first child I really think she had no idea!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@lilhenry89:  I was 8.5 months pregnant and maid of honor at my sister’s wedding with my first child.  Her wedding was about 7 hours away from me.  Give her the option to step down at any time.  Some people feel great at the end of pregnancy, some don’t.  If it wouldn’t have been my sister’s wedding, there’s no way in heck I would have gone.  

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

When is her due date? This is probably something you guys will have to play by ear, because I know that early in my pregnancy I was all like, “Oh, I’ll still be able to do stuff close to my due date! I’m probably going to be late anyways since it’s my first, I know I’ll be kinda tired at that point but I can totally still travel a bit for important events, it will be fine!” Now I’m 3 weeks away from my due date and my point of view on this has changed significantly…I’m exhausted and feeling very naseous and flu-like, and there is absolutely no way I’d be able to sit in a car for 6 hours even if I wouldn’t be worried about being so far away from the hospital and midwives I carefully selected for my child’s birth. Sorry, I hate to be a downer, but trying to give you a realistic look at what 9 months pregnant is like.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you should expect for her not to be there. Sucks, I know, but you can’t really ask someone that pregnant to be so far from their hospital so close to their due date. :/ 

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