Pregnant MOH

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who’s being selfish?
    Bride : (164 votes)
    96 %
    MOH : (6 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 31
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    1933 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    A) it’s unreasonable to expect anyone to base their serious important life decisions around your wedding, and

    B) TTC doesn’t mean immediately getting pregnant. The odds are 25% per month at best!

    Post # 32
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    2129 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    julies1949 :  you always have the best advice. 

    OP… sorry girl but everyone else’s life doesn’t stop for you. Be happy for her and live your day for you. Weddings and babies are not about who gets more attention. They are about growing families. A more compassionate and loving thing would be to plan your thank you speech to include a small blurb about how thankful you are to her for doing her duties as Maid/Matron of Honor while pregnant. 

    Post # 33
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    1819 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I understand her need to breed, but I would ask her to step down and be a bridesmaid with less responsibility or just a regular guest.

    Post # 34
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    13474 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Super selfish.  How is it not selfish to be mad that her plans to start a family intereferes with your wedding?  You don’t even know if she’ll conceieve right away or if she’ll have trouble?  bringing it up now is only going to cause problems that might not even materialize. 

    Post # 35
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    6129 posts
    Bee Keeper

    yupmarried :  You’d ask your BFF, who may or may not conceive before your wedding, to step down if her plans to start a family overlapped your wedding YEAR? Wow. I was a pregnant Maid/Matron of Honor and it didn’t stop me from handling any of my responsibilities. I was no less capable as a pregnant woman than I was as a not-pregnant woman. My friend was just as happy for me as I was for her. That’s how friendship is supposed to work. 

    Post # 36
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    11612 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    yupmarried :  Aside from attending the wedding and being of general support on the day, attending rehearsal if possible and perhaps coordinating Bridesmaid or Best Man to pick up their dresses, there are no responsibilities, only voluntary offers. 

    Post # 37
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    11612 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    yupmarried :  Aside from attending the wedding and being of general support on the day, attending rehearsal if possible and perhaps coordinating Bridesmaid or Best Man to pick up their dresses, it’s an honor not a job description. There are no additional responsibilities, only voluntary and optional offers. 

    Post # 38
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    862 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Well I think we found the other person who voted that the moh is being selfish. 

    Post # 40
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    9555 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    I’m not being a bridezilla!!! I just fully expect everyone to plan their lives around my wedding.

    Post # 43
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    6019 posts
    Bee Keeper

    zl27 :  This is also a good point, but it may be better to wait until a bit closer to the wedding to ‘suggest’ (Bridezilla-speak for foot-stampingly demand) the self-tanner, depending on where the bride is with her own tanning. While nobody wants their talking props (aka bridesmaids) to look lens-crackingly fugly, it’s also essential that no-one look better than the bride. Some brides aren’t even okay with ‘as good’ or ‘almost as good’, they like a little more buffer zone between their own beauty and their entourages’ wedding look. Which is fully within the bride’s rights, being as it’s Her Speshul Day and all…oh yeah, and the groom’s too I guess though obv her desires supercede his. 

    Post # 44
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    1010 posts
    Bumble bee

    Well try to think of it as well as “What if she wasn’t trying and got pregnant”… How would you feel about it then?

    Post # 45
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    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    RobbieAndJuliahaha: OMG yes of course!! The bride ALWAYS has to look better than her props! It is a Props job to NOT IN ANY CIRCUMSTANCE TTC from the time of engagement to marriage –and even a little after that cause I mean no bride wants a Prop to announce a pregnancy so shortly after her ‘Majestic’ wedding. Also, Props must not shower 2-3 days before said wedding so in order to not upstage the brides beauty. A Prop must have hair and makeup done exactly as the bride requests AND must pay pay for the hair and makeup as well. Last but not least, the ENTIRE wedding weekend a Prop must do everything that the bride wants them to- no if’s, and’s or but’s.

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