Post # 46
Surely this is a joke?? Are you really contemplating asking another person to put off having a child because it interferes with your party? What if she asked you to postpone your wedding because she is TTC? How would you feel about that? That actually seems like the more reasonable scenario. Bee, I think you need to postpone your wedding so you can truly be there for your cousin.
Post # 47
@Mimivac: Unfortunately I do not think this is a joke.
Post # 48
“I feel saddened that my sister will be pregnant for my wedding and she is my Maid/Matron of Honor.”
I really don’t understand this at all. You are SAD that your own sister is pregnant? Mind boggling.
Post # 49
If you don’t think you’re a bridezilla, I’m horrified to think what your definition of the word is.
Post # 50
TTC trumps wedding. Always. A child is a huge event, and to ask someone to postpone that for your day is crazy.
Post # 51
My Darling Husband is the best man in his friend’s weeding in Mexico in May. The day after my due date. We didn’t plan it that way. We were TTC 5 months earlier. If I had gotten pregnant when we first started trying, baby would have been 5 months old at the time of the wedding. I didn’t want to skip a month of TTC just for the wedding, even though it is for my husband’s best friend. We haven’t decided yet if Darling Husband is going to go at all, but his friend is understanding. I’m sure he is disappointed, but we had to do what was right for our family. We love and support our friend, but our family comes first.
Post # 52
You are not being selfish. She has committed to being your Maid/Matron of Honor on your big day, and now she is PURPOSELY going to be 8 or 9 months pregnant during it, and pretending to be oblivious about how that impacts your wedding. You cannot ask her to hold off on trying to get pregnant, but you can talk to her about what this means for Maid/Matron of Honor duties. It is not fair to you to have to take the risk of not having a Maid/Matron of Honor at your wedding. I would talk to her and say that you support her, but want to discuss the plan for your wedding. Get her input on whether you should ask someone else to take the role.
Post # 53
Your wedding does not dictate other people’s timelines.
Post # 54
hmoore : I’m sorry girl, I’m on your MOH’s side. I dont care who is getting married, nothing is stopping me and Darling Husband from TTC.
Post # 56
nbavs47 : Do you realize how utterly insane you sound?
Post # 57
nbavs47 : Contrary to your very misguided beliefs, Maid/Matron of Honor is not a job description or even a role that must be filled. Honors such as Maid/Matron of Honor are just that, honors based on a relationship. If the Maid/Matron of Honor cannot, in the end, be there, then guess what, she will be absent. Plenty of weddings feature BMs only, two MOHs, a Maid/Matron of Honor only, or none at all.
It would actually be offensive to “promote” someone because it suggests people are only there as props or for expectations the bride may have. Both are inappropriate.
As for your other comments, you are incredibly out of line. You have no idea why the timeline is what it is. To say that it’s none of your business would be a very kind understatement.
Post # 58
I actually thought this was sarcasm because it’s so over the top irrational.
Post # 59
Sansa85 : Me too. Alas, it’s probably not.