Pregnant MOH

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who’s being selfish?
    Bride : (164 votes)
    96 %
    MOH : (6 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 61
    2657 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    hmoore :  my sister, who was also my maid of honor was 8 months pregnant at my wedding. She got pregnant immediately after I asked her to be my moh, lol. Everything was just fine. It will be fine. And the thing is, a wedding is a single day, you really can’t expect someone to plan thier life around the schedule of someone else’s celebration.

    Post # 62
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I had the same thought, OP. I have two MOHs and one is my BFF who is going to start TTC very soon and my wedding is in September 2018. I guess we are bridezillas! But honestly, I would be over the moon for her if she got pregnant. But, we have been best friends for over a decade, it kind of sucks imagining her 8 months pregnant for the wedding, yes attention would go to her, yes she would maybe not go to the bachelorette which I have dreamed of for years with her, she wouldn’t be able to “celebrate/party” like normal. It sucks but I guess that’s life. You have to focus on yourself and your Fiance and capitalize on your marriage. It’s not your job to patrol her life timeline, though it would be lovely if she waited a couple months to get pregnant, you can’t dictate these things. I feel ya, but we can’t do anything about it. I don’t think it’s being a bridezilla. It’s just emotion. Take it with a grain of salt and move on. Your other bridal party probably won’t be pregnant. It’s not the end of the world. 

    Post # 63
    4539 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999


    (WB not letting me tag anyone😕)

    OP should be happy that her Prop…oops I meant Maid/Matron of Honor may be waddling around at 8 months with swollen pregnancy Shrek feet, a full bladder, bloated and tired with bags under her eyes because she can’t find a comfortable enough position to get more than an hours sleep at a time. It means that in OPs zilla eyes she will automatically look better than her bridal party and will not have to worry about how to sabotage and choose unflattering make up, hair and a dress to put her Prop in. #winning

    OP you are being ridiculous. Your day will still go ahead and be special to you and others who have more invested in the day. You accept that she may not be there or that she may be pregnant or even breastfeeding had your wedding. As part of being a good friend you should be happy and supportive of all the exciting and wonderful moments in her life as she should be of you. How exciting that you are both participating in firsts in your lives at the same time!!!

    A guest of ours had their first child via emergency cesarean 9 weeks early just after attending our ceremony. On our anniversary we always remember that it is the LOs birthday and send a happy birthday text/card. They jokingly say they forget their own wedding anniversary but always remember ours! Its actually quite nice that we all share an important day and it by no means takes away the specialness of each others special day. Your day will always be special to you irrespective of whatever else happens around you. Try not to focus on the small stuff that will be inconsequential in the long run.

    Post # 64
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee

    OP hasn’t replied, it’s “her” first post, it’s INSANE, and it’s gotten everyone revved up… I’m not buying it. 

    Post # 65
    1678 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    How the heck did I miss this post and prime sarcasm opportunity?  Oh well, I call tro—Doh!

    Post # 66
    471 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    @DeniseSecunda: It must be because so many of us are telling her how wrong she is….I don’t think she has a defense anymore. Saying she is NOT bridezilla won’t work since we all determined and proved that she is lol

    Post # 67
    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Wait, I’ve been TTC for 6 months, and now my sister and her Boyfriend or Best Friend are getting serious. Should I put my TTC on hold until they get engaged and have the wedding before we keep trying? 

    OP, if you are real, please. Think about how serious and how often difficult the journey of TTC is. No one should be expected to alter their plans for someone else. Sometimes it takes months to conceive. Why should they wait to start trying and delay their plans further and further?

    *My sister would NEVER ask this of me, btw.

    Post # 68
    395 posts
    Helper bee

    Hey Bride! I understand it is your special day and you are really excited and you should be. But life happens. And sadly there will always be a “better” and more elaborate wedding. We need to be satisfied with our special day because it is a day celebrating our commitment to our spouse, someone made just for us. The way things look, taste or appear are secondary. Try to be positive. First she might not get pregnant. Second, if she is your Maid/Matron of Honor you should be close and excited for each other in your lives. Third, if she is pregnant well on the positive one less person to compete with you for that eye catching figure.

    I am a guy and I look like I am pregnant.I am pretty humilialted about being in a wedding but at least the groom will look good next to me and it isn’t abotu me. It is about a loving couple wanting to celelbrate and honor their love. I really am unimportant. People will be there to celebrate you (or drink the free booze). But seriously, people especially family and friends can one day celelbrate you and another Aunt Gertie’s 80th birthday. There is plenty of love to spread around.

    Post # 69
    2 posts
    • Wedding: December 2018 - The 1910 Inn Tarpon Springs

    Best wishes! 

    Post # 70
    551 posts
    Busy bee

    there’s also the possibility that she might not get pregnant immediately…stop worrying about the what ifs and just carry on-

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