Post # 1
Okay… I’m actually the Maid/Matron of Honor, not the bride. I’m almost certain that I am pregnant (going to the doc to confirm the day after tomorrow). If I am indeed pregnant, I will be five months along on the wedding day. FIVE MONTHS!
So… the bride is my sister and she’s know what *may be* going on here. She took it very well and simply said "They make the dresses in all sizes. Don’t worry"!
Oh – I’m worried! I can’t just buy a 12 or 14 instead of an 8 and poof! it’s fixed! I’m going to need this dress altered!
This is where your much needed opinions come in! Has anyone gone through this experience before?
Thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 3
Those home pregnancy tests are pretty accurate, so I am going to say congratulations!
Post # 4
congrats – i hope things turn out the way you want them to!
i would buy the dress several sizes bigger than you are now and wait til a week or so before the wedding to get it altered. most alterations only take a few days. you never know how big (or small) you may be at 5 months, so no use in chancing it. if the wedding gets closer and the dress is entirely too small, you can always exchange it for a bigger size…
Post # 5
Not sure about your body type. But I was barely showing at 5 months for my first pregnancy. Is the dress decided on yet? If not it could simply be a matter of getting an empire waisted dress (something a little flowy). But either way, you can get something a little bigger than you are now. The bridal shop gals deal with this all the time, they cn help with sizing. And sure you might need alterations. But you might have needed them without being pregnant.
Congratulations. Everything will work out beautifully.
Post # 6
CONGRATS on your pregnancy!
Since all pregnancies are different you may or may not be showing entirely at 5 months. For my sister’s 2nd pregnancy, when she was 7 months she didn’t even look like she was preggie, only a little overweight. You do have the option of purchasing a dress at a larger size now and get it altered closer to the time. No matter what you choose just remember that it is just better to take in then to take out.
Everything will work out! Good luck!
Post # 7
Congratulations! I would try to pick a shape that would accommodate a growing belly (like an empire line), plus pick a fabric that is more flowy (like a gathered chiffon). Some bellies pop out early in pregnancy, where others don’t even barely show till 7 months down the line. Having a flowy fabric would enable you to have room to grow, or it would just lie flatter, if your belly hadn’t popped out yet. Good luck!
Post # 8
So I was in this exact situation, from the bride’s side. I bought empire-waisted gowns about 8 months ago, knowing my Maid/Matron of Honor might be pregnant by my wedding date. We’re about 3 weeks out now and she’s about 30 weeks along (yay!), and there’s no way the original dress will work; the band along the waist is too thick and, even though it’s high, it’s not flexible and it won’t accomodate the baby belly. So she’s chosen to have a dress custom-made to match.
Has the bride picked the dress yet? Is she going with a bridesmaids’ line, or with a department store dress? I went the department store route, but if I’d gone with something like Alfred Angelo, they probably would’ve had maternity styles that we could’ve chosen from that would’ve accomodated my MOH’s changing body. That way, you could buy it ahead of time.
But seriously, don’t worry. It will work out and congrats, congrats, congrats to you!!
Post # 9
Congrats! My Maid/Matron of Honor will be about 8 months pregnant at my wedding this weekend, and we opted to have her buy a couple yards of the fabric (we got the other girls’ dresses at David’s Bridal), and then a friend made her dress in the past few weeks. She just had it fitted for the final time yesterday, with only five days until the wedding. If you’re only going to be about 5 months come wedding time, it probably won’t be as big of a deal, but at 8 months, my Maid/Matron of Honor swears she’s growing by inches every day!
Getting the same fabric and making a similar style dress seemed to be the most practical solution for us. Be careful about ordering a dress uber big and having it altered a ton – my Maid/Matron of Honor was going to do that originally, but when the super sized dress came in, we realized it just wasn’t meant for a pregnant body, and there was no way they could alter it without just turning it into a big ugly sack.
Talk to the store where you’re getting the dresses and make sure you know the return policy. It’s good you’re planning for this already, and it sounds like your sister is pretty laid-back about the whole thing, so that should make the process a little easier. Best of luck!
Post # 10
Thanks ladies! Empire waist is definitely out. She has pickes a tea length a-line for the maids. My fear is exactly what MarryingtheNavy wrote:
"the super sized dress came in, we realized it just wasn’t meant for a pregnant body, and there was no way they could alter it without just turning it into a big ugly sack."
It will be great no matter what… As the Maid/Matron of Honor it wouldn’t be that crazy to have a different dress than the BM’s. Right?
Doc appt. is tomorrow at 9am!
Post # 11
Good luck. Let us know how it goes.
SO as Maid/Matron of Honor, is your sister not willing to allow you a different dress, if need be? I reread you first post. this kind of caught me. "So… the bride is my sister and she’s know what *may be* going on here. She took it very well." Were you concerned she’d be upset? I kind of got a bridezilla vibe with what was said. I guess I thought it should read a little more like, "I told my sister, who was naturally really happy for me." Maybe I misread that a bit.
I still think at 5 months you are going to be fine. MarryingtheNavy’s Maid/Matron of Honor was 8 months pregnant. Big difference. Again, not sure about your body type, but some women look like they’re 5 months pregnant, naturally. (No offense to anyone.) I don’t think it would be a big concern for them.
Relax a bit. I think you’ve been thinking a lot about all the exciting stuff happening right now. And that it’s unchartered territory for you. You don’t know what to expect. Rely on the advice of women who have been there and the bridal shop attendants.
Post # 12
Congrats on the baby! I would order you dress now so you don’t have to stress about it later and so you don’t have to pay for the rush shipping. Is it possible for you to get something like a babydoll style so you have room for your belly and you won’t have to worry about altering it too much?
My sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor and got pregnant right after we ordered and paid for the dresses. She was about 5 months pregnant by the time my wedding rolled around (although she didn’t tell me she was preggers until like 2 weeks before the wedding). Her dress needed to be taken out about 3 inches in the bust area, but luckily because of the style of the dress she ended up having just barely enough room in the belly area for her belly.
So yeah, my point is, if you buy a couple sizes up, it’s always easier to take the dress in than to take it out. So buy it now, but buy larger and as close as you can to the date then get it altered.
Post # 13
I just wanted to update this post. I was in fact pregnant and barely showing at the wedding. No real alterations were necessary. I wasn’t as big as I thought I would be! Thanks for your support 🙂
Man! I was really freaking out! haha.