Pregnant – Not sure how to feel

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You need to tell him right away. 

Stay strong! I am so sorry you’re going through this, please seek out support from someone you can trust…that will help you immensely during this tough time. 

Post # 3
2489 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think waiting until you’re farther along would help, unless you were to lose the pregnancy and therefore avoid telling him at all, but even then that wouldn’t be healthy for you to have to shoulder it all on your own without him knowing. Ask him to meet up someplace private and tell him straightforwardly. It’s bad timing but it’s not really something you can hide. 

Post # 4
9729 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Tell him right away so the two of you can make a decision as to how you would like to proceed.

Post # 5
1285 posts
Bumble bee

I would tell him. then you can discuss your options and you can make an informed decision.

Post # 7
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would go and get a test done from a doctor just to confirm its a positive test and then tell him but do not wait any longer than that

Post # 8
7383 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

anonon22 :  people usually wait to tell friends and family, not the father of the baby.

I would tell him now.

Have you scheduled your first appointment yet?

Post # 9
1285 posts
Bumble bee

call a doctor. they will give you a blood test and then you will know for sure. sonograms etc. come later. I would maybe wait until the blood test was done. As for worrying if something happens and you told him for nothing, you can’t think that way. He has a right to know and there is no reason for you to worry on your own. it’s still 50% his responsibility and he is a friend and not a random one night stand. the waiting is meant for other people. not for the other parent.

Post # 10
9615 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

anonon22 :  Agree with PPs. Blood test right away to confirm, then tell him in person immediately. There’s no reason to delay the inevitable. 

Post # 11
2509 posts
Sugar bee

Definitely tell him. He has a right to know, and I’m sure he would want to be there to support you and to help with decision making, no matter WHAT happens.

His incredibly new relationship is NOT your priority right now.

Getting help and support from your friend is. This is 100% the time to be selfish.

Post # 12
11746 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

anonon22 :  you tell him what you know and what you’re going to do to confirm it. That’s all. Nothing more or less.

That keeps speculation and doubt out of the picture, and he will be involved from the beginning.


Post # 15
9131 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

If there’s any chance at all that you might terminate the pregnancy or that he will very much want to, you should probably start having that conversation sooner rather than later.  Don’t wait til the sonogram and all that.

Actually, regardless of what you choose to do, it’s kind of a dick move to be like “Hey I’m 4 months pregnant!”  Definitely sooner rather than later is good.

Good luck and deep breaths!

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