Post # 62
@Scc6a: Lol! I’ve never had this conversation with anyone IRL and I’m not sure if my mama friends ever received gifts or not, but I’m totally using that hate my baby line if I ever get the opportunity 😛
My feelings are this: It’s not like pregnancy has been a friggin blast. I never treat myself. I really want an eternity band but would never splurge on one “just because”. So why the hell not? I’m wondering who here would turn down a gift like this (assuming it was a surprise)?
Post # 63
I’m not pregnant, and won’t be anytime soon, but I saw once that a new dad bought his wife a chrysanthemum plant in honor of her becoming a “mum”. That is something I loved and would push a hint for, but not a expensive gift. Of course, I’m all about sentiment, so there would then be a plant for each child thereafter.
Post # 64
I’m not pregnant, nor is it my plan anytime soon, however the only “push present” I would want is a huge wheel of brie cheese since you are apparently not supposed to eat it while pregnant. I think having a baby is present enough and I would be upset if SO spent money on a gift for me when it could have gone for baby stuff. However I do feel like the smaller gifts I’ve heard of bees getting (the Willow Tree people, homemade brew etc) is adorable, sweet, nice gesture and not over the top.
But women wanting new cars/super expensive jewelry etc after they have their own baby ugh it seems wrong to me.
Post # 65
i think that the term push present – and expecting one – is a bit odd and not something that I would do …
that being said, my Destination Wedding and I get each other small presents for no reason and I think that it would be wonderful to be able to commemorate the birth of our child(ren) with a gift, but I would want each person to have something, no matter which partner carried. (though that is probably a little different since we are both females)
our LO is due is Sept – which for us is extra fun since sapphire is the birthstone and we both have sapphires in our engagement rings. I’m carrying, but I am thinking about getting her sapphire earrings to celebrate and I am fairly certain she’ll get me something…nothing over the top or b/c I “pushed the baby out” really just to celebrate a wonderful time in our lives (that is, if we have the $$)
Post # 66
Firstly, I think it is weird to think of or refer to your baby as a “gift,” like it’s your property. That is much weirder to me than the idea of a push present. Like, your baby being healthy, I can see that being a gift, but your baby in general? No. It is a tiny human being and it just strikes me the wrong way to view a human being as any sort of property type thing.
On the subject of push presents, while I hate the name (I believe it is imported from England?), I do like the idea of having something to commemorate the birth/life of each child. I have an engagement ring to commemorate/symbolize our decision to marry, we have wedding rings to commemorate/symbolize our marriage, I would love something special to commemorate the lives of my children, which imo are even more significant because while I could divorce my husband I could never unmother my children. And for me personally having a small physical token to remember good memories by is very nice – I guess you could say I use things like that as talismans to refocus if I am having a difficult time.
re: ostentatiousness, as long as your budget can handle it, I don’t care what you get. If you can afford a 200k ring, go for it, whatever.