- Miss Wallaroo
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Over the weekend, I went with my sister to look at some Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. She is the ‘biggest’ of my BMs so I wanted her to wear a dress that she feels beautiful AND comfortable in. I think we found one, so today, while at work, I sent a link to one of my BMs via gchat.
I was hoping to just get an opinion of ‘yay’ or ‘nay’ but she broke the news to me that she has some serious news and prefaced it with “promise me you won’t freak out and won’t tell anyone just yet”
So… like a good friend… I promised.
She then proceeded to tell me that she was pregnant (completely unplanned btw) – and her due date is my wedding day/week.
I obviously congratulate her and tell her how it’s so exciting! She on the other hand is completely terrified and doesn’t know what to expect. She’s nervous about still standing up in my wedding because of the pregger state she will be in and having never had a child myself I have no idea what that would even be like.
All I know is, I can’t imagine getting married without her standing up there beside me. We’ve been friends for almost 12 years and when I picture my wedding… after I picture my FH’s face and parents… I picture her standing and smiling next to me. I just cannot picture one of the biggest days of my life occurring without her being a part of it.
I talked to her on the phone once I got off work and emphasized that I want her to be comfortable and happy and not stressed. Stress is the last thing she’ll need when she’ll be expecting. But I also told her that I can’t picture my wedding without her. I told her we could find her a kick ass maternity dress and we could wheel her in a wheelchair down the aisle and decorate a pretty chair for her to sit in next to me if we had to. (You might think I’m kidding but I’d be totally fine with a decorated chair).
She told me she was relieved I was so supportive, but she just needs to figure out how feasible it will be with a due date like hers.
So now I’m just patiently awaiting her response.
I want her to stay a part of my bridal party. I have other close friends that I could “substitute” but I don’t want to do that because no one will replace her.
I feel like this is like being caught between a rock and a hard place. I’m so excited for her but also so disappointed at the thought of her not being there with me. When I started talking to FH about it, I started crying *sigh*
Anyone out there ever been pregnant and a BM? How far along were you? How uncomfortable were you? Is it feasible to even do if you’re THAT close to giving birth? Help. =