Post # 1
I guess I am just posting because I need some encouragement. I know it’s probably just hormones but I feel stressed and depressed. Fiance and I found out in October that we are expecting…we were planning to have a wedding next fall but decided we both want to be married when the baby comes so we moved our wedding date to Feb 7(2015) we just moved to a beautiful new home after our old landlord told us children were not welcome in the apartment we used to live in and told us we needed to be out by Jan 31st(among many other ridiculous problems) My wonderful family helped us moved but now I have a house stacked to the celing with boxes and crap, trying to plan a wedding, and suffering terrible sickness all the time. I’m also dealing with the few vendors we planned to employ being super rude because we’ve changed plans or new vendors being rude about the short notice/time frame. I just want to stay in bed and cry all day. My family and Fiance are amazing but I feel alone in all this. Can anyone offer some encouragement?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Stanley House Inn
Oh my – that’s a lot! You got this!
Your plans seemed to have changed in all sorts of ways in the past few months – so first – congrats on the new (family friendly!) place, the BFP, and getting married sooner!
So on top of all of the normal life stress – you get hormones cracking the whip and in total control of you. Yay, emotions! You’ll be awesome. If you’re paying people and they are violating the terms of your agreement – then be rude back!
Don’t stay in bed all day – that isn’t healthy.
But you got this, I’m sure of it.
Post # 3
Your going though so many major life changes at once it is perfectly normal to feel like this. Most people don’t move, get married , and have a baby all in short sequince.
Tell your Fiance and family how your feeling and if they offer ( which I am sure they will) to take care of some stuff for you, let them.
Try not to sweat peoples attitudes they are only in your life for a short while not worth the stress , or if you know you don’t like dealing with a certain vendor let your Fiance deal directly with that person. You can relay what you would like and he can pass that on to them.
Hope you feel better
Post # 4
First of all… I want to give you a big hug!! It’s normal for you to feel stressed with all the changes. Just remember not to do too much and to take breaks whenever you need to. Make sure to have some snacks on hand and lots of fluids. Deep breaths too… I make it sound so easy but this is a monumental task. I read making a baby is like running a marathon for ~40 weeks with no training. So our bodies are already at full speed ahead , so we feel so tired and stressed. I wish I could come help you, I am 11 weeks and would need help. Hopefully your family can continue to help you. It’s okay to cry, this is a very emotional time but think of the end game, a new home that’s organized and clean, a space to make your own, your sanctuary. Keep us updated, don’t lift anything too heavy dear. How many guests will be on your wedding list? That’s exciting too. *Hugs to you*
Post # 5
Oh Bees, you are all so wonderful! I just have tears in my eyes from reading all the nice, encouraging things you’ve told me! You are all right, I have plenty of people to help. I am just normally such an “I’ll do everything myself” type of person. We are having about 75 people at the wedding! It will be a wonderful time surrounded by people we love. My mom is my own personal fairy godmother/super hero and has basically been completely putting together the wedding. My guy is amazing and he caters to all my needs…I’m just not accostomed to having so many needs I can’t take care of myself. I think I just needed a pat on the back because I am feeling renewed energy to get the things done that I need to. After Feb 7th, I will be able to relax and enjoy my new home, my new hubby, and my growing baby.
Thanks again Bees, you all are wonderful 🙂
Post # 6
We’re going through the same thing right now. We just got married 2 weeks ago, we just found out DH has an extra 2 months to graduate from school, and we don’t know what city we are moving to after he does. Plus we have had a lot of problems with insurance.
But we are doing it. We know that if we can get through this, our baby will be a piece of cake. DH and I are closer now than ever (and we are pretty darn close haha). We know once we getc through this rough patch, everything will be ok.
Post # 7
Everything will work out. I’m getting married in June and I’m pregnant. Due September 2nd. This is my first child and I’m nervous and excited at the same time. I’m planning on moving to a bigger apartment soon, but I have a dog and lots of places won’t except dogs. But it’s going to be a very busy year but gotta keep the faith. Just know everything will work out its a blessing to have a husband and a baby.
Post # 8
I am sorry that you’re feeling so overwhelmed!! It happens to me sometimes but DH is really good at helping me de stress 🙂 I was in a similar situation. We were married in October 2014 but fell pregnant one month before the wedding. We moved back home during Christmas holidays and I had to cut back working from full time to part time due to the commute. The wedding, pregnancy and moving house are all overwhelming life changes on their own, let alone dealing with them all at once. One piece of advice I’d give is to take on one major thing at a time. It sounds like the most pressing issue is your house ATM so I’d recommend that you concentrate on unpacking and organising things until you feel more comfortable. In regards to wedding planning, I would ask your Fiance to take on the responsibility of dealing with some of the more difficult vendors. We booked our vendors 3 years in advance and in the lead up to our wedding they were a nightmare. I happily palmed them off to DH and he dealt with their nonesense. You’ll find that by minimising some stress from your life you’ll be able to focus on your pregnancy. I’m not sure about you but this is my first pregnancy and I never thought it would fly by so fast. I’m already 19 weeks… half way next week!! The sickness passes and then you realise how special this time is. You don’t want to let other stresses disguise how exciting this time is for the two of you!!
Post # 9
That is a lot all at once! I can only imagine how overwhelming it must be. But I think it also sounds lovely…your wedding, a baby, and a new place to live 🙂 You are so blessed!
I hope things start going more smoothly for you soon. Just make a list and go through things one at a time. And remember to relax a bit every day — have a bath, read a book and drink tea, or spend quality time with your man. Wishing you all the best!