Post # 16
We went to a relationship counsellor who usually works with people who are trying to salvage their marriage. He kept saying how refreshing it was to work with people at the beginning of their relationship. He also said it spoke volumes of our commitment to each other and he gave us heaps of respectful communication tools. We aired out our few difficulties in a respectful environment and it actually made us feel that tingly, excited “in-love” feeling all over again (we’ve been together 4 years). I would highly recommend it to anyone. Even if difficulties are brought to the surface, there should be nothing there that can;t be worked through. And it’s best to work through them prior to marriage anyway! The old “sweep it under the carpet” technique does not a happy marriage make!
Post # 17
danibelle: we got married in a catholic church and had a couple sponser us. so we would go to their house and meet with them for a few hours. we were really nervious and not sure what to expect. The only thing that was an issue for us, if there was one, was finances. Darling Husband and i were dating for 6.5 years and lived together for 4.5 years but we had not combined our finances since its complicated with Darling Husband being self employed. And worried about how we would raise our children, but in a sense that we were worried each others family would get too involved. And that was it. they loved that we dated for so long, which made it easier for us and our sponsers. it was pretty easy peasy. we were a good match and that was a lot of positive energy towards our relatinship. it made us stronger since not only were we discussing these issues (and others) but disscussing them with an outside long term married couple. interesting to hear what they did and what other couples they sponsered did as well. This made Darling Husband more comforable with my church (he was scared to death of meeting these people and he doesnt really like meeting people in gen. since he came from a town of like 50 people). i think it also strengthened our relationship with God as a couple. we ended up doing like 4 sessions that were 2-3 hour sit downs with them. we took two couple page “tests” seperatly and then compared and disscused everything we didnt awnser the same.