(Closed) premarital genetic testing

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Lots of people of eastern euro jewish descent who marry each other do this b/c of tay-sachs disease.  other than that, I don’t know anyone who has done it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m a huge believer in genetics, but I don’t think I would do this.  It sounds great, and very promising.  but honestly, If it ended up that we would make some really sick child, I would hate to break up because of it.  We both want biological children, and I wouldn’t want to risk it.  If they aren’t 100% perfect, it’s ok.  They’d be my babies.

Post # 5
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Newbee

There is also a third approach, which my fiance and I are taking. We are getting married in October and will undergo genetic screening before trying to conceive. We are fortunate to live in a time where if a problem is detected, we can intervene then without having to give up on being together and beginning a family together.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

we’re jewish so our rabbi suggested that we do this after we got married. for us, it wasn’t going to stop us from being together and it wasn’t going to stop us from having children, b/c if we’re both a carrier it doesn’t mean for sure our child would get it. our insurance didn’t cover it until after i was preggo though, so we waited. luckily for us it wasn’t an issue.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think this is a good idea if you are Ashkenazi Jewish.  We went through genetic counseling, but ultimately decided that we didn’t need to do actual genetic testing prior to conception.  We did, however, do chromosomes on the baby at 13 weeks since some of our screening tests came back abnormal.

Post # 9
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I understand the concept, but why must it be “premarital?” You could be tested after you’re married, too, right? (Sorry to be confused. I haven’t heard of this much before.)

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m hispanic… and we would not even have considered genetic testing. The thing that happened was that i had a miscarriage. It was then that i found out that i m Rh- and O- and my uterus is shaped really weird. (I dont know what the genetic testing would of caught but i think it would of caught the Rh-.) So i would say that everyone should get tested. Not because i am a fanatic about it but because sometimes it is just to late to do anything. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think the only reason to do this before marriage is if you’re totally fixated on having biological children, to the point where you’d break off the relationship and find someone else if you can’t have them together.  I don’t really know anyone who fits into this category – though I do know one person who got herself tested for something pre-marriage because she thought that it would prevent her from living long enough to raise children and did not want to do that to her partner.  Really, though, if it’s kids you’re concerned about, you can wait until you’re ready to conceive and then go from there.

Also – I think the longer you wait on this front, the better.  There’s so many genetic things we haven’t mapped out and understood yet, so if kids are a few years off, there may be new and different tests available.

Post # 12
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16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I understand. I wasn’t looking at it as a possible relationship dealbreaker. Thanks for the explanation!

Post # 14
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@ginnyc: Oh thanks! Makes even more sense now. 🙂

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

i am jewish of eastern euro descent, and so is my Fiance. last time i was at the dr. they needed to take blood, so they took extra and put it in for the whole “jewish panel”- 13 diseases (i think?) incl. tay sachs that we are more genetically at risk for, plus cystic fibrosis. came back negative for the jewish panel but i am a carrier for CF. my Fiance needs to get tested, then we’ll decide what we want to do (not ready for kids for a few years). very stressful at first but i’ve calmed down. glad i did it now, before i am TTC, so we can work through our options if necessary.

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