Post # 1
Ok so I’m not getting married in a church. I have already booked and cancelled on one officiant because they led me to believe the rehearsal was inlcuded in the price when it wasn’t. I think I’ve found an officiant that sounds wonderful and reasonable (we’re meeting after the holidays).
The only wedding I’ve ever been in was my sisters and that was in a church. The organist had us walk up and down a gazillion times to make sure the music went right.
Because of cost we’re thinking about having our dj do the ceremony music as well. He won’t be there for the rehearsal is this a big deal?
I’m not getting married til June so I shouldnt be concerned about this now but I am.
Everyone says that they do the weddings all the time and that I have nothing to worry about but what they don’t realize is that I’ve never been married before. I want as much practice walking down this aisle as possible… Is that wrong? Has anyone else had their officiants try to talk them out of doing a rehearsal?
The way I feel is so much money is going into these 5 hours I want it to be as perfect as possible. I dont’ want to be standing up at the alter for forever while the music is still playing.
Has anyone had a dj do their ceremony before or were in a wedding where the dj did the music? How does this work?
Please ease my fears….
Post # 3
I was at 2 wedding where the DJ did the music and it went perfectly. What you need to do is communicate everything you want to the DJ. Remember DJ’s do weddings ALL THE TIME they know who, what, when, where and how. I had a rehearsal and our Pastor did everything backwards so we started in the middle of the ceremony and then worked our way to walking down the isle. For me we practiced a couple times walking down the isle at rehearsal and I can tell you when it came to the real deal the next day it was completely different. You just need to relax and go with the flow let the music guide you and trust the person running the music!! It will all work out!
Post # 4
Did you think it was cheesy not having musicians or was it not really noticed?
Post # 5
our rabbi wasn’t at our rehearsal and it was fine – we had our Day of Coordinator run it, but you could have someone at your venue do it, they probably do that all the time.
We also didn’t practice with the music, again not a problem because our band did the music – and this is something they do all the time too 🙂 the people that need the rehearsal are really just the wedding party! And our musicians messed up the music (hit the wrong key or something nothing a rehearsal would have helped, just a screw up) – and it was just a tiny blip in the day! How perfect your ceremony goes has nothing to do with how amazing your day is!
Post # 6
We didn’t practice at all. We lined up in the lobby, and the pastor’s wife told us when to go in. The musicians were at the front, where they could see us, and tailored the length of songs to how long it took everybody to get to the front of the room. Of course, we had previously discussed the music with the musicians (which song for parents to walk in and be seated, which song for attendants, which song for my dad and I) so we knew from what we could hear when it was our turn.
It’s true that these people do this all the time, and absolutely know how to make it work. If you’re worried about how long it should take you to walk down the aisle, ask your DJ for the versions of the songs he intends to play, so you can play them yourself and get a feel for how much time you have. Talk to him about whether or how he will fade one song into the next if they are too long. You can absolutely work it out without dragging him and all his equipment to the church for the rehearsal.