Post # 1
My fiancee mentioned a prenup before our engagement and didn’t discuss until two months before our wedding. I agreed upon signing a prenup, but not to signing one if I did NOT receive anything in the end! In his proposal, he offered me nothing! Second revised, offered, alimony, lawyer fees and temporary housing while going through divorce. Nothing that was made after the marriage would be mine. We had planned on having kids, me being a stay at home mom and I would still not receive a dime! Should a I sign a prenup that stipulates no 50/50 with a home we purchase together or anything throughout and after the wedding?
Post # 4
@jlioy: I would not sign that. Especially since you are going to be a stay at home mom, you should be getting some percentage of future earnings and half the house.
Post # 5
Who does he think he is that he would get to keep all of everything accumulated during your marriage?
Post # 6
That doesn’t sound fair at all. You should get a lawyer to negotiate on your behalf.
Post # 7
I agree. This is hard especially with the wedding being TWO WEEKS AWAY!
He had been married before for about 1 1/2 to a high powered attorney who took a lot of what he had and now I am being treated how the ex should have the first time around. He is a doctor, but still with me being a stay at home mom and possibly working part time. I should get 50/50 and a house. It is stated that anything he has as far as assets, homes and money coming in I will not touch!
Post # 8
This would be totally different if you weren’t planning on being a stay at home mom, but since that has been agreed upon, I think I would not sign it as is. I would talk to him and explain your very valid concerns. This is definately something you should be on the same page for. Don’t sign anything you’re not comfortable with.
Post # 9
I luckily have an attorney representing me and will NOT let me sign this! I hope we can come to some sort of an agreement bc there might not be a wedding…
Post # 10
I would not sign that. It basically gives no value at all to your role in the marriage, or in reasing your children.
Good luck, its a tough situation!
Post # 11
My Fiance had one and after my revisions we will not have one after all.
I added labor cost for an in home maid for every year we were together.
Labor cost for a year around gardener and landscaper.
All monies I put toward house repairs.
Cost of a seasonal decorator.
Let’s just say after my revisions and situations it was not worth it to him to bother. HAHA
My childhood girlfriend is an attorney and been thru 2 divorces and helped me with it. My Fiance SAID, YOU can’t do that this is ridiculous and my attorney said she can put any stipulation she desires. HA
If I were you I would put what you think is far to you and your future with children or not sign it.
Post # 12
I’m not familiar with the states, but here we have to take the proposed pre-nup to a completely different lawyer, have them read it to make sure everything is in order, give you the lament terms of it and make sure that both parties are getting their equal share and that its agreed upon. Both the different lawyer and the 2nd party have to sign it. So, if you don’t have to take it to another lawyer, I certainly would. I’d ALSO talk to your Fiance about this. Try to find out why he doesn’t want to split everything 50/50 if there’s no businesses, etc involved.
Darling Husband and I decided to have a pre-nup, he got one drawn up by his lawyer, he brought it home, we discussed some more, and then had it revised before I took it to another lawyer. Course, we did this all 2 weeks before the wedding, but thats what happens when your hubs is forgetful…
ETA: Sigh, sorry I was in the middle of typing this out when you posted a couple responses. I would DEFINITELY have a sit-down discussion with your Fiance about finances and the what-ifs…
Post # 13
no way i would sign that. if you buy a house together when you are married then it is your house as well as his, regardless of who the breadwinner is!! if you have kids, he thinks its cool to put you all up at a holiday in for a few weeks until you find an apartment while he continues to live in the house your children have come to call home all alone?
Post # 14
Yikes! I’m glad you have an attorney!
I know his attorney has been writing these up, but come on, your Fiance must be looking at them. If he intends to have children with you, and he intends to share custody of those children, it’s in his best interest to ensure you have a home (so that his children have a home when they visit with you). This sounds really… strange… so I’m glad you’re working with an attorney.
Anyway, congrats on your impending wedding, and I sure hope you never need to look at the prenup again! 🙂
Post # 15
i think prenups are good if there’s family money or a personal business to protect.
I personally wouldn’t sign yours. When you divorce, I believe that a couple should get exactly 1/2 everything that was made/earned/purchased during the time the couple was married.
Post # 16
I would never sign something like that. If you got a divorce you would be totally screwed. You can’t expect someone to give up any career and be a stay at home mom and then if you get divorced leave them hanging with no work experience etc… It would have been good for him to do this awhile back, this would concern me if the person i was marrying was acting so entitled.