Post # 1
So I need some prenup advise and I’m hoping there are other Bees with them or are getting them.
So walking into my relationship I knew when we were getting married I would need to agree to a prenup due to FI having a settlement from a car accident when he was young. His parents worked hard to get this money for him and I totally understand where him and his parents are coming from. a side no I have no idea how much its for its not mine so I’ve never felt the need to ask.
My problem is that we are 5 months out from the wedding and in all the research I have done says you should have everything taken care of within 3-4 months before the wedding. On my side I have done what I needed I hired and have had a sit down with a lawyer to represent me to go over what to expect because I’m honestly pretty clueless. But I don’t think FI has moved forward with anything yet! Should I be worried? How long do these things usually take to put together? Any advice or anything Bees would like to share about their experience about the prenup topic would be appreciated.
Post # 2
wanabeabee: This is not your problem to worry about. If your FI wants a prenup, its up to him to get it done. If both parties are in agreement, it can be done in a couple of days.
I am glad you have seen a lawyer to get independent advice. We have a prenup because I owned my home outright before I met DH. I want this money to go to my children. DH has his own investments to pass on to his children.
When and if your FI presents you with a draft prenup, you will need to see your lawyer again, to make sure it is in your best interests to sign it.
Post # 3
typically it needs to be completed more than 30 days before the wedding, so the parties cannot claim duress later about it being signed and have it thrown out. but you can also do post-nups. but Julies1949 is correct, this is his choice, so his responsibility. we have a prenup in our relationship and we were both very pro-active about it.
Post # 4
julies1949: andixlyn: Thanks ladies. I def will not be getting on him about getting what he needs done. This was his choice so he should be on top of it. I am happy to here that it shouldnt take that long to complete ours should be pretty simple. Thanks again!!