- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
I’ve been feeling so sad about my situation. Wedding is about 2 months away. And my fiance is asking me to sign a prenup. At first, I was upset. But after reading about it more, I think it’s fair for him to protect his assets, inheritance, and company acquired prior to our marriage.
But here’s the back story: we’ve been together for 10 years since I was 21, him 23, and we’re both doctors (i just recently finished my training and have not gained much from my income yet, where as he finished 2 years ago and started his own practice).
So after calming down, I told him it’s fair for us to keep whatever we own before the marriage (his owns his parents house, and I own my parents house, his private practice, my soon-to-be practice, our own inheritances), but we’d share everything acquired during our marriage, split would be 50/50 if a divorce was to occur.
I recently looked at the prenup agreement, and it was very hurtful. Basically, it says whatever that is his, will be his, whatever that is mine, will be mine, EVEN throughout the marriage. Basically everything is to be kept separately, everything acquired during our marriage will not be split 50/50, waiving my rights to alimony, and in case of his death, I get nothing. He doesn’t leave anything to me (his family gets it all). His sister drafted the document, and i’m so hurt by it.
So that brings me to the question, why get married at all? I’m feeling the blues.
What do you think ladies? Should I marry this man? I hate all this talk about money. And I feel like i’m sacrificing a lot to leave my own family to move to where he is.