@mlk1980: Sorry to hear all that’s going on. To me it sounds like the hurtful words he said we his family talking through him.
May I ask does his family live near you guys if you got married? They look like they will be a problem in the future.
I would probably post-pone the wedding…I wouldn’t say walk away. If you think about it, financial issues could pop up in the marraige, and walking away isn’t the way to solve, but I would say take longer to assess your relationship and his relationship with his family, by postponing.
It seems like he’s sort of a family pleaser (mama’s boy if you will). He needs to cut the umbilical cord before you 2 marry.
I don’t think he aggred to all your terms, his sister is still his lawyer. What if she puts a clause in there that could be a loop-hole that could be easily missed while read.
Most bees are against ultimatums, but your Fiance needs one, your ultimatum is to come at this one even playing grounds, 0% family included…even on a professional basis. Leave him no choice but to walk or to agree to your very reasonable terms.
Also, upon his death, you should get everything, maybe he could leave a small donation to his parents…but that should be it, kids or no kids. And it should be vice-versa for you.
He needs to know that once you are married, you guys are your own family, and your immidiate family (the 2 of you and possible kids) come first at ALL TIMES.
If you think about it, your wedding vows may include the words “till death do us part” or similar, therefore upon a death you actually kept and completed your vow, you are entiled to the benefits of that vow.