(Closed) Prenup – Would You Sign?

posted 7 years ago in Legal
  • poll: Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
    Yes : (82 votes)
    34 %
    No : (81 votes)
    34 %
    It Depends on The Situation : (76 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    554 posts
    Busy bee

    I would and I did. You just hire your own lawyer and make sure you leave ample time prior to the wedding to sort out everything. The key is to take emotion out of it and remain level headed. Just one day sit down and propose a discussion about finances and bring it up. Logic is key.  

    Post # 4
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    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I can’t imagine signing a pre-nup. I feel like by signing a pre-nup you are entering the marriage expecting for it to fail.  I understand that those who choose to have one are protecting themselves but it just seems so ominous to me!

    Post # 5
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    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would sign one. I asked 2 times already if he wanted one (he has more assets then I do). He’s said no, we don’t need one. And that’s NOT becasue we refuse to admit that divorce may be in the future. We both aknowledge that shit happens and when that shit hits the fan sometimes the only way out is divorce. I’m a realist, I refuse to live in fairytale land where we all live happily ever after- afterall stats don’t lie, and half of us WILL suffer this fate.

    All that said, we still don’t need one… but that’s becasue neither of us are the type to “take ’em for all they’re worth” type of people. So if it does end, it will just end.

    Post # 6
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    2114 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    If we were drastically different in financial situations going into a marriage , yes I would . 

    Post # 7
    Member
    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it’s necessary.  No one plans breakups, but they happen, so it’s better to have something that could potentially be devastating or ugly already handled.  Just think about it logically, and broach the subject lightly and stict to the facts.

    Post # 7
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    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We talked about it for less than a minute and then we decided against one. Even if we did end up splitting someday neither of us have anything right now… 

    Post # 7
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    2114 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    you should add a poll

    Post # 8
    Member
    14495 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would and did.  I have absolutely no issues with them what so ever.  There are times when they are a security blanket that is needed to make things as comfortable as possible.  I agree with @DVsMom: logic is key and take the emotion out of it.  I see it no differently than filling out a will, just part of the legal process of getting married especially if you have decent assets to protect.

    Post # 9
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    1014 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would think if one of us had ties to “family money” like through a parents business or had trust funds, then I’d be okay with signing one.  Neither one of us has any major assets, except our home together, so we didn’t feel like it was necessary for us.  I don’t think their should be any negativity towards prenups, though… many people say “you’re setting your marriage up to fail”, but that’s just BS.  of course, no one wants their marriage to fail, but if it did, at least you’d have a safety net.

    Post # 11
    Member
    949 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Absolutely. I actually suggested it, more for his benefit than mine, but he was so indifferent to the idea that I figured I’d drop it. I think the best way to present it might be to look at it as a hope for the best, plan for the worst, and if the worst happens, hopefully it’ll make a hard thing in life easier and protect both of you.

    Post # 13
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    554 posts
    Busy bee

    @DarrenTunstall: A prenup doesn’t mean you are just holding on to whatever assets you have. It can. A prenup can have whatever you want. Ours indicates certain assets we each had prior to marriage are ours should we divorce and it also deals with our home that we purchased prior to marriage (equitable distribution) and it also deals with our pets and a few other provisions that are unique to our situation. Everything else made/aquired after marriage is ours and shared. There is no exact formula to a prenup, it varies for each couple. 

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