- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So my Fiance and I just did our Prepare and Enrich test (I think it’s similar to FOCCUS), and met with the deacon about the results. A little back story- the deacon is my dad’s best friend so I have known him for my entire life and think of him as family.
For almost every category, we were perfectly matched- and we felt proud of the fact that we know each other so well. However, when we got to the religion and faith section, it was a very uncomfortable conversation. I was born and raised Catholic, and I still attend church occasionally- normally when I’m with my parents or brother. My Fiance was baptized Catholic, but that is pretty much the last interaction he has had with the church. We know our differences in this area, and while it has been an issue, we are very open with each other about it.
I feel like I was lectured and scolded pretty intensely about the fact that many of my answers were not those of a devout Catholic. I wanted to answer honestly and not how I felt the questions should be answered. On the other side, my Fiance was just told that his answers were fine because he hasn’t had much interaction in the church. Maybe it was just worse for me because I felt like it was a family member expressing complete disappointment in me.
I’m just curious as to what other Bees have experienced in going over the Prepare and Enrich test. Did anyone else find themselves in an uncomfortable situation with your priest/deacon?