Post # 1
My Fiance and I are going back to the counselor tomorrow to get our results for the Prepare/Enrich test! Being the worrywort that I am, I totally worried that we’ll end up scoring Conflicted or (an even worse and previously unknown category) DEVITALIZED!
I’m probably being dramatic, since Fiance and I get along pretty well and rarely disagree on anything major, but it could happen!
Has anyone taken the test, with a current Fiance or past one? What was your score?! Was it what you expected? How seriously did you take the results?
Post # 3
We took it a month ago and the results showed that we are a Conflicted couple. But we already knew this. We are complete opposites. But the results don’t mean that it’s the end of the world, or that we shouldn’t get married. We are proud of how far we’ve come in working on our issues, and we will only continue to improve.
The more detailed results were pretty accurate in showing where our problems lie and in showing our differences. But we already knew most of it. I still take the results seriously, as it means we still have things to work on, but it doesn’t mean I’m going to go running for the hills.
Post # 4
Yeah, our counselor said that our results are not indicative about whether or not we SHOULD or should not marry, just how many skills/areas we need to work on for the best chance of being successful?
I saw a Bee on here scored a Conflicted with her husband, and they were totally surprised. I guess I’m a total geek/nerd, and the idea of ‘failing’ any kind of test gives me the heebie jeebies. But I’m with you, we talked about it alot, and if our results show us things we didnt expect to see, we’re willing to stick it out!
What is it like to be a Vitalized couple anyway? That seems like a pretty rare category.
Post # 6
Honestly I cannot remember what we got but “conflicted” is ringing a bell. We were actually having some issues at the time so it makes a lot of sense that we did not score “better.” My husband in particular was very upset with the results on his personal issues. He always considered himself to be a really confident person and he was shocked that his results suggested that he had confidence issues. He was going through a very hard time at work when we took the test and feeling unappreciated and even abused, so it makes sense looking back.
I also am like a teacher’s pet and enjoy scoring high and I was horrified at first that my rabbi would no longer want to marry us. But he was just like, OK these are the areas where you need to be aware of your differences and be sure to communicate and compromise and work on them.
This first almost year has been a huge learning and growing experience. I have learned that nothing is as it seems on paper or on the outside. I did worry about it beforehard like you are but it’s nice to know that conflicted =/= doomed.
Post # 7
@phillygirl629: I also recieved a VERY LOW score on self-confidence! But I’ve been applying for jobs with little success, and I had just been rejected on my nursing school application. We had some surprising results for our personality test, but that one made sense due to the current situation.
In case anyone is interested, we scored Harmonious! I’m not sure how, but they didnt really ask a whole lot about trust issues, which is where most of our problems lie…I have a hard time trusting him, but he’s done little (but not nothing) to spur my concerns. Most of my relationships have had my exes cheating on me, so its something I’d begun to dread/expect.
I thought the test was really cool, and she gave us alot of exercises to work on! The only thing was, we scored 90% agreement on the Sexual area of the test, which made us both blush (closely followed by a HIMYM style high-five!) That was the only thing we found uncomfortable, haha
Post # 8
We just got our results back on Sunday, and it came back “Conflicted.” I guess I wasn’t all that surprised—we are opposites in a lot of ways—but it did leave me shaken. It’s reassuring to know that there are other couples who have scored low and didn’t consider it the death knell in their marriage plans.