Black_bird: It’s awesome you want to get a leg up on planning and figuring stuff out now even though there may be people who say you have time. You truly don’t realize how fast that time goes.
I put everything off, and I am a planner. I took my birthing classes about 4 months into my pregnancy, so you can consider those almost any time if it is an interest of yours. After that was when I got pretty serious. I had my baby shower when I was 33 weeks pregnant (I believe, might have been 34 weeks), but at any rate I did it after I knew the sex of the baby, if you plan to find out.
After that was when I really nailed myself down because I felt I was getting down to the wire. I made a March calendar and marked down everything I needed to do because when you look at everything, it is overwhelming especially since you won’t know how you’re going to feel. Maybe make monthly calendars and give yourself a task once a week to get something done (deep clean one area of the house, make a few days for exercise, make appointments, read, etc).
On the flip side of things, I have everything done. I can still find more to do, but now that I got everything done by 35-36 weeks, my weeks are going by slower and they are more painful in terms of my foul mood and seem longer because everyone constantly reminds me of how much longer I have. it isn’t long, but repeating it every day and realizing only a day goes day makes it seem like forever.
At this point you can:
-Get some books (Mayo Guide to Pregnancy is fantastic)
-Discuss with DH/SO when you want to tell people (before or after the 12 weeks–we told parents and sibs right away and waited until 12 weeks to tell everyone else).
-Also talk about names and if you want to find out the gender
-Look into birthing classes if you’re interested and try to take one your hospital offers. I learned a ton at mine but it was more specific to the hospital and doctors themselves rather than the birthing experience so that made it worth it for me.
-Start journaling. You can start something online or writing. I actually started letters to my son before I even knew his gender. Whether or not he gives a crap to read them when he’s older it has made me feel better to at least collect my thoughts and write about it. Plus if my son does appreciate it they are going to make for a very sweet momento someday 🙂
Have fun! It’s exciting and goes by fast (I slightly cringe as I say that since right now I am 38 weeks pregnant and in a foul mood and in pain and feel like this will never end. My body seems to just be teasing me with contractions right now).