Post # 1
How did you prepare your relationship for the big commitment? I want to start off on a really solid foundation, go into it eyes wide open. With the divorce rate being over 50% I want to give my marriage the best possible start by having the right information and tools.
Did you do any workbooks, questionares, workshops, books, classes, etc? Any recomendations?
I think we have talked about most important things like children, finances, goals. We have also done couples therapy but it was about something else specific.
Our relationship is great, but it’s still scary with the statistics and seeing other solid relationships breaking up. Is there anything else that we could do or is it just taking the plunge at this point?
Post # 3
We’re going to do pre-marital counseling of some kind too. We’re having my cousin marry us, so it’ll be separate than that. I sort of don’t want to do “therapy.” But if we can’t find the right situation in a mentor relationship or church setting we’ll probably do that. Like you I know that marriage is important and tough, and I want someone objective to get us talking about things that maybe we wouldn’t have come up with on our own. Or asked questions or something. Good luck finding someone or some program!
If you’re located in SoCal I know of a church that does a great six week workshop, if you’re interested. (I’m not located there, otherwise problem solved.) 😉
Post # 4
I feel the same way!! We have a great relationship, hardly ever fight, have been together for 3 years and live together, aren’t too young, etc. BUT 50% of people get divorced!! I think we are going to do a few sessions of premarital counseling. I read a few research articles that people are more satisfied with their relationship after doing premarital counseling, this very well may be because the type of people who do premarital counseling are the type of people who really care about having a lasting relationship, but in any case it can’t hurt! We talk about all those things too, and I’m not expecting premarital counseling to bring up any issues, but rather prepare us for the most common reasons people break up. I’m sure we’d be fine without it, but I’d like to know that we are doing everything possible to be happy with each other 🙂
Post # 5
I should add that we don’t have any religious affiliations, so we would’t do it through a church but that could be a good option.