- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
Okay so long time reader, first time poster,I know you’re all full of knowledge so lay it on me :p
Me and My Fiance are planning on getting married by ourselves, on a cruise boat, on our “honeymoon”. We were originally going to have a wedding, but due to cost and my high anxiety and stress issues, plus the fact neither of us really want all that attention, we came to the decision to just do it the two of us.
I love the idea, and the intimacy of it, since it reall does reflect us as a couple. I guess I just have a few questions on how to go about it without hurting too many peoples’ feelings and making sure we are not coming aross as selfish or uncaring of our close friends and family.
The plan is, go on cruise, get married, throw a less formal post-reception type party afterwards so we can still celebrate, and possibly show he video/ photos of our destination wedding.
I have already told my two best friends of our idea, one was all for it, the other not so much. I also told my mother, who also said she thought it was a great idea. I guess for us to be fully on board with it, and for me not to feel guilty, I just want to ask his parents and my uncle( who is like a father to me since I don’t have one). As long as we have their blessing, I think I am happy to go ahead.
We are still having the reception, still feeding people, so they should be oay with it, right? Also this has nothing to dow ith gifts, I understand that eloping forfeits any gifts we would receive, even though we are still forking out a lot for them at the reception party anyways.
I want a way to tell everyone beforehand maybe at the engagement party? Saying that we will be having a completely private ceremony, yet on our return we would love to celebrate with them all? I am not sure how to go about this with them.
I am also wondering if it is an option to sign papers and do all the legality of it here, and then have our ceremony privately like we planned, so maybe our parents can be with us for the signing and nt feel so cut out?
I feel like having a full wedding, for the reasons I want one(how cute my cousins will look in their dresses/ peasing everyone), are not good enough to warrant spending the amount we would or the stress and time, and I would much rather be alne with my partner, and spend the money on our first home together/ money towards our first child.
I guess my questions are, does this sound like the best option for everyone involved? Can we do the legal side of things with family without it ruining our private ceremony on the boat? Anyone who has any tips or experiences with cruise weddings?