(Closed) Preprinted thank yous 12 weeks after wedding??!!!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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WhatMaeBee:  We’re in the southeast, so that may explain it. 

Post # 47
1441 posts
Bumble bee

Honestly, I suspect (some) photographers/paper suite vendors may be upselling couples on a package that includes mass-produced, non-individualized thank-you card, mini-albums done with professional production values,  as a way to avoid writing personalized notes. Now, maybe, if the couple had a photo taken with each guest and enclosed it, that would indicate that some thought had actually been given to each guest/couple, and that might be worth the wait.

Obviously, opinions differ, but waiting in order to get a photo thank you doesn’t feel that special to me, since I’ve already seen photos on social media.


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Post # 48
3848 posts
Honey bee

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joy1313:  That’s great, but in American culture, that’s what you do at a shower and that’s what was expected in the family and situation I described which is why it was rude that this person did not do it. Like I said, I find it uncomfortable and gift grabby which is why I choose to not have a shower.

Post # 49
638 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

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MsYankee:  Honestly, I thought the same way as you (in that I found it rude not to include a personal message. I discussed the thought with moy Mother-In-Law and she TOLD me to do a generic card.

We’re meeting in the middle and I’m doing a postcard with a generic thank you and a spot for a little personal message on the back. 

Post # 50
3102 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I got a pre-printed thank you for a wedding. I considered it lazy and classless, with or without a photo. I could give a rat”s @ss about someone’s pre-printed notes. How much effort does that take? If hand written thank you notes are antiquated I am a proud antique.

And don’t get me started on what I think about people waiting months so that they can enclose a photo. <rolleyes>

Post # 51
9 posts

I wouldn’t care if it’s preprinted or not. I hand wrote the thank you cards for my baby showers and daughter’s baptism, and honestly after a while they all sounded the same. I tried to make them different but there are only so many ways I could say thank you over 75 times for attending and for the gift if they brought one. While I will continue to hand write my thank you cards, I honestly give zero shits about receiving a preprinted card vs a handwritten one. It says thank you…it has served its purpose for me. 

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