(Closed) Presbyterian questions

posted 6 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Kym080412:  I’m not sure this goes for all presbyterian churches, and for the record I’m atheist, but I am getting married at a presbyterian church. My Fiance is presbyterian, his father is the minister, and will be the one marrying us. We haven’t discussed the ceremony in detail yet (the wedding is not until next August), but I do know we are required to have premarital counselling. We will not have it with FI’s dad (under his suggestion which I am thankful for) but he said he will find someone to do the premarital counselling with us. He said its usually 3 sessions. Nothing has been mentioned about premarital classes yet so I don’t think we will do any. I don’t know a ton about the ceremony, other than its “fairly standard”, and will include a couple readers. He said the ceremonies are about 20 minutes long. I suspect that a lot of this varies by the minister and church. I’m mostly commenting so I remember to check back and see if other bees can elaborate on my terribly vague answer.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ours was two sessions with a questionnaire in between.  Just us and the pastor. As far as I know, it’s only required that there be some meeting so that the pastor doing the ceremony can discuss compatibility, etc, with the couple, but how that’s done is left very much up to the discretion of the pastor him/herself. 

The discussions in our two sessions were fun, open conversations about who we are and how we communicate. The questionnaire was just to try to find strengths and weaknesses in communication so we can know on what issues we should try to communicate better. We also talked about what we want from the ceremony.

Presbyterian ceremonies tend to be very simple and don’t have a lot of absolute requirements, so they can be very individual and personal. There’s even optional wording that the couple can choose if one of them is athiest. We’ll have one more meeting, just to plan the actual ceremony. That’s it!

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