(Closed) Pressure

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1254 posts
Bumble bee

Oh boy…I stopped reading at head dress…LOL!

My Fiance and I are paying for our wedding, but I am an encore bride and my first-time was very similar to yours. You hit the nail on the head, she is reliving her bridal days through you.

I think the best way to cope is to understand that she wants to make you happy. And the best way she knows how is to offer you the same things that have made her happy in the past. When you are faced with a dilemma, try to look at things from her point of view and argue from her end. For example, taking pre-wedding pictures. Not only is it more convenient for everyone, but it is also more cost-effective for her. There will be no need to extend cocktail hour while guests wait for the bridal party to finish with pictures. There will be no risk of having to pay the photographer overtime for extra hours used, etc.

As for the head dress…I’m still thinking about that one.

Post # 4
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Honestly, I think your best bet is to talk less with her about the details.  If she suggests something, you can say, “Oh, I’ll have to think about that,” and then move on to another topic.  Then do as you want.

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