(Closed) pressure for information about an upcoming bachelor party

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Hostess
7564 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

That puts you in an awkward position. I probably would just tell her you don’t know. That’s clearly between her and her FI and you don’t want to be in the middle. 

Post # 5
Member
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@jmultitalent:  Is she freaking out about the general idea of a bachelor party?? or does she want to know exactly where you’ll be?? Why does it matter where you’ll be if she trusts you not to betray her…

Post # 6
Member
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m confused…why is it such a secret?

It sounds like she suspects strippers/hookers or something like that…

Post # 7
Member
20 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It seems like you should be able to tell her that it’s going to be a guy’s weekend, and let her know as much as you feel comfortable with. If she’s worried about what you’ll be doing, you should find ways to assure her that no matter what happens, she doesn’t have to worry about you! Let her know that it’s kind of like a surprise party, and it’s not fair if she’s the only wife/fi in on the surprise.

Post # 8
Member
7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your loyalty to your FI trumps your loyalty to your friend. When you’re engaged you should have no secrets. Tell her as much as she wants to know, on the condition that she doesn’t tell the bride or groom.

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