(Closed) Pressure to Breastfeed

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I nursed all 4 of my kids, but not all my friends have.  Of my friends who chose to bottle feed, not one of them was pressured into trying to nurse by hospital nurses/staff. 

 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

If you don’t want to breastfeed don’t. I’m pro breastfeeding and doing everything to make it possible, but sometimes it just won’t work. That being said, I would try it even for the couple of days you are in the hospital if you can. If not, stand your ground and don’t let someone pressure you into doing what doesn’t work for you.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

one of our friends is a brilliant woman.  she has multiple degrees, is a partner is one of this country’s leading accounting firms and was left a crying emotional wreck with her first child because she could not breastfeed.  she tried and tried and tried and was told she wasnt trying hard enough and her baby wasnt thriving and she was still told she could do better and when she finally switched to formula she said she felt like a failure and actually had to have councilling because of how it affected her

child #2 and she tried and same problem but this time she switched to formula asap and both mother and child were happy and she was confident enough as a mother this time round to say to hell to anyone that wanted to judge her

i hope you do whats best for both you and your baby when the time comes

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

Yeah, I’m gonna have to throw it out there that even if you only feed the baby the colostrom for the first couple days, it’s better than formula from the start.  Every little drop helps.

But the hospital staff shouldn’t pressure you either way.  They are supposed to ask your preference and assist you with it.  If you decide you don’t want to even start BFing at all, just tell them when you go into labor.  Afterwards, if they try to encourage you to try and you really really don’t want to, just thank them for the advice and ask them to leave the room.  Generally they don’t waste their time with women who don’t want the advice because they are busy with all the first time moms learning BFing anyway.  If you are 100% sure you don’t want to do it at all, then put it on your birth plan.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’m in Canada, so maybe it’s a Canadian thing that they don’t pester moms over their decision?  

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I breastfed my child and so did my niece and she returned to work a mere week after having the baby! However, most of my friends bottle-fed and none were really pressured to breast-feed.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

BanditGirl, down here (australia) only 3 weeks ago they were talking about making breastfeeding compulsory by law *roll eyes*  we cant even stop little kiddies being molested or people being murdered but lets go after those that emotionally need an incredible amount of support at that time of their lives!

sorry but it steams me big time, im all for natural is best and go breast but not all women can breastfeed so they shouldnt be made to feel worse about it

sorry for the soapbox rant – i saw my friend go thru hell and it still hurts

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@BanditGirl: thats surprising banditgirl – my sister and cousins have had babies this year and both of them reported incredible pressure from the nursing staff and lactation consultants – my cousin had no trouble but my sister had to supplement for 4 days early on, and the LLL woman who came to assist her basically berrated her for not trying hard enough. 

ETA: sister and cousin are in Toronto – both delivered at women’s.

I dont’ have a baby so i’m not sure where i stand…i’m glad breastfeeding has become the choice of most woman, because i know the immunological benfits of it – but alot of the things i’ve heard are quite scary.  I’ve already said to my fiance that he is to eject any nurses or lactation consultants that are mean to me immediately – and we are not planning on TTC for at least 2 years!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

@eloping: Wow, mandatory??  That is a very strange law.  How on earth would you enforce that, ban formula??

 @LpCutiPie: If you have friends and family around who won’t be judgemental, you can also ask them to talk to the hospital staff instead.  So if the lactation consultant comes down, your Darling Husband could tell him/her you won’t need their services.  It helps if you have support of your own!

Also, I only pumped at lunch and at the end of the day.  The books said like every 2 1/2 hours, but that wasn’t possible for me.  But I’ve seen the tight schedules at the day care and I can appreciate how little time you get and how unpredictable it can sometimes be.  And they don’t give you any maternity leave?  That’s sad.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

At the risk of sounding harsh, I have to say that with all the known benefits of breastfeeding I truly cannot fathom why (if you are physically able to) a mother wouldn’t do everything in her power to provide her child with breast milk. I personally just don’t think that being busy is a good enough excuse not to breastfeed and/or pump when we know the immunological headstart it can provide. If I had to pump at lunch, after work, before bed and in the middle of the night I would.

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