(Closed) Pressure to Drink

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
2202 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You can say your on antibiotics & if they press the issues say its a lady thing, NO ones going to question you more about that one!!! HaHaHaHaHaHaHaHa

Post # 4
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I hear you. I had the same thing happen to me multiple times, and it was so annoying. WHY do people do this? Ugh. Anyway, what to do about it. I used to just tell people I didn’t feel like drinking that night, but you could also always say you’re on meds or doing a detox or something. I would also sometimes either order a drink and just have Darling Husband drink it when no one was looking, or I’d order a seltzer at the bar in private and let people think it was alcohol. 

Post # 6
2273 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve told Darling Husband he’ll be drinking my drinks for a while 🙂 but usually when drinking is going to be involved I become designated driver and that stops some of the questions. That said thou I didnt always have a social drink with dinner either so my friends (and even DHs) are used to me saying no to drinks and its not questioned any more.

My mum suggested asking the barman to give me a coke in a spirits glass to combat questions too (if need be) cos thats what she did because she didnt drive at the time but I find being Dirty Delete works the best. 


Post # 7
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@squishycupcake:  im in same boat, too early to take a test but im feeling different and really think i might be pregnant

Plus 1 on the antibiotics thing. Its weird how its socially acceptable to pressure ppl to drink

Post # 8
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I quit drinking at the end of last year and I just say I had a reaction (which I kind of did lol) to the alcohol and I do not want one again (it was a pain in my jaw – and I looked it up and I believe alcohol does cause that) and that usually gets people off my back! 😀 Try it! 

Post # 9
1015 posts
Bumble bee

I’m horrified that anyone over the age of 20 would ever think it’s socially acceptable to pressure someone to drink!  I’m not pregnant or TTC, and I like wine, but I also like lemonade.  It’s really just a toss of a coin on what I will feel like drinking on any given night out, and if I happen to be in the mood for lemonade, then that’s what I’m going to drink.  What’s the point in wasting money on a drink that you don’t actually want?  If someone tried to pressure me into ordering wine when what I really wanted was lemonade, I’d just tell them to grow up.  Or, if I were feeling a little bit more diplomatic, I would just say that I’m giving my liver a break for the night.


Post # 10
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Say you already have a bad headache and alcohol only makes it worse. It’s true for me!

Post # 11
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JulietFoxtrot:  +1 to all of that. Really immature to pressure someone else to drink.

Another suggestion is you have to drive. (Even if you’re taking the train home, you might need to drive later on).

Post # 12
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

“Nope, don’t want to, thanks.”

“I’m trying to lose a few pounds”

“Not feeling great, dont’ want to make it worse.” 

“I’m driving”

“I’m on meds at the moment, bad idea.”


Post # 13
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have said that I’m on a health spree for a few months, so not drinking until June, or such. Also with people I know well, who know we will be trying for a baby in the near future, I’ve said I’ve decided to give up drinking for a few months before TTC. No one has questioned me. At New Year, I had to go the sneaky route and buy non-alcoholic wine to bring to a party, and no one noticed.

Post # 14
510 posts
Busy bee

For those Bees are are saying it’s “really immature” to pressure someone to drink,  this doesn’t seem like a “haha, what a loser, we need to make her drink!” type of thing. OP was understandably caught offguard with how to explain the no drink, if she normally drinks a beer at dinner and has ever had drinks with her friend before, and therefore when a friend doesn’t straight up give an answer as to why they’re not drinking, it’s totally common for friends to try to encourage them to get some alcohol. It’s not meant to be mean, it’s meant to be good natured ribbing and they want them to join in the fun!

However, obviously that can’t happen here. If you’re not used to saying ‘no’ when you don’t feel like drinking and a friend asks you to partake, it can be understandably awkward. I agree with the antibiotics things, or just laugh it off and keep ordering pop. It seems more complicated at the time than it actually has to be Smile

Post # 16
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

How obnoxious!

I have NO IDEA what I’ll do when I’m TTC and not drinking. People will DEFINITELY find that weird!

But I think a lot of the ideas on here are great! I especially like the antibiotics one!

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