Post # 1
Hey bees! We’re TTC, and recently i’ve had some symptoms that could be a good sign. However, it’s too early to take a test to confirm or deny anything.
Last night, I met up with my husband and some friends after work. Since I’m not sure what’s going on with my uterus, I decided to order a Sprite with my dinner. One of our friends (who admittedly had already had a few drinks) WOULD NOT STOP telling me to order alcohol. She brought it up three times. I hadn’t yet told my husband about these symptoms (my brain only started doing the math yesterday morning), so he couldn’t help me out.
My friends are all in their late 20s and early 30s, and none of them go crazy at the clubs every weekend. However, it seems like I’m going to have to push off some drinking pressure for a while.
Anyone else in the same boat? I’d love some tips. I thought about ordering a virgin drink at the bar, but since we had table service, I couldn’t do that.
Post # 3
You can say your on antibiotics & if they press the issues say its a lady thing, NO ones going to question you more about that one!!! HaHaHaHaHaHaHaHa
Post # 4
I hear you. I had the same thing happen to me multiple times, and it was so annoying. WHY do people do this? Ugh. Anyway, what to do about it. I used to just tell people I didn’t feel like drinking that night, but you could also always say you’re on meds or doing a detox or something. I would also sometimes either order a drink and just have Darling Husband drink it when no one was looking, or I’d order a seltzer at the bar in private and let people think it was alcohol.
Post # 5
@stillme: I think she was just drunk, but sober people do it too. I’m not even a big drinker normally — usually I have one beer with dinner.
I think ordering at the bar or saying I’m on meds might be my best options. The problem with detox is that I love junk food 🙂
Post # 6
I’ve told Darling Husband he’ll be drinking my drinks for a while 🙂 but usually when drinking is going to be involved I become designated driver and that stops some of the questions. That said thou I didnt always have a social drink with dinner either so my friends (and even DHs) are used to me saying no to drinks and its not questioned any more.
My mum suggested asking the barman to give me a coke in a spirits glass to combat questions too (if need be) cos thats what she did because she didnt drive at the time but I find being Dirty Delete works the best.
Post # 7
@squishycupcake: im in same boat, too early to take a test but im feeling different and really think i might be pregnant
Plus 1 on the antibiotics thing. Its weird how its socially acceptable to pressure ppl to drink
Post # 8
I quit drinking at the end of last year and I just say I had a reaction (which I kind of did lol) to the alcohol and I do not want one again (it was a pain in my jaw – and I looked it up and I believe alcohol does cause that) and that usually gets people off my back! 😀 Try it!
Post # 9
I’m horrified that anyone over the age of 20 would ever think it’s socially acceptable to pressure someone to drink! I’m not pregnant or TTC, and I like wine, but I also like lemonade. It’s really just a toss of a coin on what I will feel like drinking on any given night out, and if I happen to be in the mood for lemonade, then that’s what I’m going to drink. What’s the point in wasting money on a drink that you don’t actually want? If someone tried to pressure me into ordering wine when what I really wanted was lemonade, I’d just tell them to grow up. Or, if I were feeling a little bit more diplomatic, I would just say that I’m giving my liver a break for the night.
Post # 10
Say you already have a bad headache and alcohol only makes it worse. It’s true for me!
Post # 11
@JulietFoxtrot: +1 to all of that. Really immature to pressure someone else to drink.
Another suggestion is you have to drive. (Even if you’re taking the train home, you might need to drive later on).
Post # 12
“Nope, don’t want to, thanks.”
“I’m trying to lose a few pounds”
“Not feeling great, dont’ want to make it worse.”
“I’m on meds at the moment, bad idea.”
Post # 13
I have said that I’m on a health spree for a few months, so not drinking until June, or such. Also with people I know well, who know we will be trying for a baby in the near future, I’ve said I’ve decided to give up drinking for a few months before TTC. No one has questioned me. At New Year, I had to go the sneaky route and buy non-alcoholic wine to bring to a party, and no one noticed.
Post # 14
For those Bees are are saying it’s “really immature” to pressure someone to drink, this doesn’t seem like a “haha, what a loser, we need to make her drink!” type of thing. OP was understandably caught offguard with how to explain the no drink, if she normally drinks a beer at dinner and has ever had drinks with her friend before, and therefore when a friend doesn’t straight up give an answer as to why they’re not drinking, it’s totally common for friends to try to encourage them to get some alcohol. It’s not meant to be mean, it’s meant to be good natured ribbing and they want them to join in the fun!
However, obviously that can’t happen here. If you’re not used to saying ‘no’ when you don’t feel like drinking and a friend asks you to partake, it can be understandably awkward. I agree with the antibiotics things, or just laugh it off and keep ordering pop. It seems more complicated at the time than it actually has to be
Post # 15
@winstonchurchill: My friend was being pretty obnoxious about it. I mean, asking once and having me give a reason is one thing. She did it at least three times, and it was a drawn out conversation every time.
Post # 16
I have NO IDEA what I’ll do when I’m TTC and not drinking. People will DEFINITELY find that weird!
But I think a lot of the ideas on here are great! I especially like the antibiotics one!