Post # 1
Everytime I talk about wedding stuff my whole family starts pressuring me and my Fiance to elope. Its like they dont even care to see me get married. My mom is starting to get better with my wedding planning. Actually she is starting to enjoy it. But my grandma, grandpa, and uncle wont stop brining up getting eloped. They keep telling me the courthouse is easier, cheaper, and less of a hassle. Is it really a hassle to witness me getting married?? Its getting quite depressing and I have actually stopped talking about the wedding with a majority of my family. Anyone else have this problem?
Post # 3
Wow I am so sorry that they are doing that to you. And how weird! We actually had a lot of pressure NOT to elope…didn’t work out so well lol.
Anyways, stay with the course and plan your wedding! I am sure it will be amazing! If they don’t want to stay for the reception then they don’t have to!
Post # 4
That sucks. No one can force you to do something you don’t want. If they can’t or won’t be supportive of you, then that’s not your fault because you won’t cave into their selfish desires, no matter how much they may guilt you. Invite people who are genuinely happy for you, not those who want to control you and who won’t be happy for you.
Post # 5
i’ve been told to elope as well, but i just ignored it, because it was the one time, and i never take my mother seriously.
you said your mom is getting better at wedding planning? do you think you could talk to her about it and see if she could convince them to at least keep their mouths shut? otherwise i would personally just confront them, let them know that it hurts when they don’t show any interest in your day, and if they don’t want to come that’s fine, but you’re still going to have a wedding.
Post # 6
I’d ask your mom to say something to them b/c it’s really affecting you and they should be supportive!
Post # 7
My parents really tried to talk us into eloping after we turned down their jamaica idea. they basically said don’t waste your money, haha…but i told them i wanted a wedding, it was happening, and to not be such jerks about it. I think they got the hint and after mom started seeing pieces of it come together (dress, veil, invites, etc) i think she got more invested.
Tell the other people, “thanks, i appreciate your comment but we’re still having the wedding so you’re beating a dead horse”. Let them know you got it, now stop it!
Post # 8
Seeing those things are what made my mom get more interested too. I wish the other felt that way!