(Closed) Pressure to Elope.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow I am so sorry that they are doing that to you. And how weird! We actually had a lot of pressure NOT to elope…didn’t work out so well lol. 

Anyways, stay with the course and plan your wedding! I am sure it will be amazing! If they don’t want to stay for the reception then they don’t have to!

Post # 4
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4485 posts
Honey bee

That sucks. No one can force you to do something you don’t want. If they can’t or won’t be supportive of you, then that’s not your fault because you won’t cave into their selfish desires, no matter how much they may guilt you. Invite people who are genuinely happy for you, not those who want to control you and who won’t be happy for you.

Post # 5
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1602 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i’ve been told to elope as well, but i just ignored it, because it was the one time, and i never take my mother seriously.

you said your mom is getting better at wedding planning? do you think you could talk to her about it and see if she could convince them to at least keep their mouths shut? otherwise i would personally just confront them, let them know that it hurts when they don’t show any interest in your day, and if they don’t want to come that’s fine, but you’re still going to have a wedding.

Post # 6
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

I’d ask your mom to say something to them b/c it’s really affecting you and they should be supportive!

Post # 7
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14185 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My parents really tried to talk us into eloping after we turned down their jamaica idea. they basically said don’t waste your money, haha…but i told them i wanted a wedding, it was happening, and to not be such jerks about it. I think they got the hint and after mom started seeing pieces of it come together (dress, veil, invites, etc) i think she got more invested.

Tell the other people, “thanks, i appreciate your comment but we’re still having the wedding so you’re beating a dead horse”. Let them know you got it, now stop it!

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