(Closed) Pressure to look picture perfect

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 18
2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Uhm, honestly? I think you do look picture perfect.

I feel like Norman Rockwell would paint you in the bridal shop, that’s how picture perfect I think you look.


I don’t care about looking picture perfect. If someone makes a comment about what I’m eating and fitting into the dress I say “I don’t care, I’m going to have fun atmy wedding regardless of how I looks, and right now this ice cream is delicious” Usually shuts them up. :/

Good luck OP!
You look lovely!

Post # 19
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think you look stunning!

I am in the same boat as you…I didn’t lose the weight I wanted to and I feel…thick. My mom finally saw my dress for the first time on my second fitting, which ended up being my last because they altered it really well and it fit. I was a little concerned about my hips because it was originally too tight. They fixed it, I felt great, and then my mom dropped ” I think you need a more heavy duty girdle than just the spanx you’re wearing…” um…I am mom. “oh….it looks fine”. Great…thanks….

You look beautiful, you are going to FEEL beautiful, and your fiance will be awe-struck by you 🙂

Post # 22
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I totally feel the pressure.  I don’t know where it’s coming from – my fiance and family are so wonderful.  Whatever it is, it’s driving me crazy!  I just feel like everyone will be disappointed because I won’t be a pretty bride.  :/


You, on the other hand, are beautiful!  Your hair is adorable, and I love the headband in it!  Fabulous!

Post # 24
2296 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@inukoro1177:  your shoulders and arms look amazing – and i LOVE your hair. it reminds me of karly kloss’ new bob! 

Post # 26
4688 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

You look gorgeous. I love your hair. 

Post # 27
114 posts
Blushing bee

I think a lot of the pressure comes from the wedding factory business trying to continually tell us what we “need to be, do, and ultimately, buy”. Whenever I get caught up in my weight, or my scars, or my hair, I just try to go back to my vows. They don’t say anything about all that superficial stuff, its about me and him, simple as that. Everything else is way down the list.

I agree with PP that a lot of family members and mom’s seem to come up with their own imaginary stress about the wedding look, and instead of being supportive of whatever you want, they just give you more stress! I had to give my mom a list of rules before we even went dress shopping, just so she wouldn’t hurt my feelings. But it worked! 

Post # 29
9680 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@inukoro1177:  I was expecting to see completely different pictures. I usually don’t comment on these threads, but I have to say that you don’t look like you need to lose any weight and you look fantastic in your dress. If you want longer hair (not for your mom, but for you), you could always wear extensions on your big day (I am doing that for added thickeness, not length).

I absolutely feel the same pressure that you do and it’s exhausting. Fiance is wonderful and always tells me I’m beautiful but we are surrounded by media images and a wedding industry that tells us we aren’t (in order for us to buy more products to fix our “imperfections”). It’s a terrible system and makes a lot of people feel like crap. You, however, really don’t need to!

Post # 30
1047 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@peonyinlove:  That would be such a pretty wedding day hairstyle!

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