wiscolady: My story:
After struggling with how I FELT (not so much how I looked, although I did not look ‘great’), I began to get healthy about 4 months before I was even engaged. Although the wedding day, and wanting to look amazing was added motivation, it was not what motivated me then, nor is it what is motivating me now (post wedding). Being healthy, and feeling good are still my top priorities 🙂
However, somewhere post picking my dress (about 9 months out) til when I knew it was coming in, I grew fond of hitting a certain number on the scale, and told myself I would hit THAT weight for the wedding. That idea came and went, because a) a long/hard winter had hit, and so my fave means of exercising subsided, and b) I hate giving up calories, and c) I was kinda annoyed with myself for putting that kind of pressure on me for what?? ONE DAY?! Oh, and d) because I stopped running outdoors, and starting doing more strength/weight training, the number crept the opposite way (but, I was more toned than ever before!)
By the time my dress came in, and I had alterations to be done, it was looser than when I had ordered it (the sample was one size smaller, and did not zip fully, so I ordered one size bigger and was swimming in it!), which meant I had dropped inches, BUT my weight was 10 pounds heavier than the day I ordered the damn dress!!!! I have since stepped far, far away from the scale, because it clearly does not always dictate size or health…
On my wedding day, I felt amazing. I looked healthy, but not thin (because I will never be ‘thin’), and I looked strong (in my back and arms, the parts that showed). I have since continued strength training, and am back to running outdoors, because it makes me happy, and relieves my stress.
My friend, my very best friend, worked her butt off to get down to a magical bridal number. She looked great on her wedding day, do not get me wrong, but was barely eating, and workign out twice/day. Post wedding, she added some very healthy pounds to her already awesome frame, and still has a figure I only dream of having!! However, she ‘beats’ herself up all the time about ‘how great’ she looked in the pics hung all over her house, and how she cannot seem to get back to that number no matter what she does. Well, what she did do to be a perfect bride is almost unobtainable for a working wife, and now mother. Let alone for anyone else. I think she set a too high standard for her herself for the rest of her life, even though she works out 5 times a week, and eats healthy. She wants THAT body back, but maybe, just maybe, it was a body made for one day, in an extreme way.
Hope this helps?! VERY LONG, and I am sorry 🙂