Pressure to start a family

posted 3 months ago in Babies
Post # 16
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

peachnlello :  Life lesson learned by me

I always thought asking married couples when they were having kids (or if they have one, when they’re having their second) was just small talk.

Then one day years ago I asked a work colleague if she and her husband would have a second. She flat out said “I know you’re asking from a kind place, but please don’t – we’ve been trying for over a year now and each time i fall pregnant my body rejects it”. 

So now I never ever ask. Ever. You don’t know what people are going through, and often, its hard for them to talk about.

Post # 17
1653 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

mermaid99 :  I totally believe that happens for people all the time.  All it takes is one egg so anybody is fair game to naturally conceive until menopause.  That said, I don’t think it would be wise for a person who might want multiple kids to wait until their mid 40s for their first for no particular reason, because age related issues can definitely come into play at that point.  The whole thing is a game of balancing the pros and cons without really knowing what will happen until you try.  If someone truly doesn’t feel ready until then though, then they should wait and do what is right for them.  

Post # 18
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I get it, I was just explaining as someone said most women in here had kids after 40 that it was through IVF. For what it was worth I met my husband later in life, so it was being a mom at an older age for me.

pearlrose :  

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